"Just you wait until things change."
My N mom is constantly telling me to just wait in regards to my teen daughter. She's always telling me how "well behaved" I was and how I just randomly fell off in high school, for no reason that she can understand. She seems like she's almost wishing for my daughter to struggle, just so she can "get back at me" for my struggles as a teenager.
She also point blank has asked if she failed as a mother? Which for one, is a bit like she's insulting me and of course she doesn't want to know the answer.
I don't bother mentioning her narcissism because there's no point. But I do point out to her that maybe moving two different schools in 3 years, with one move across the country, was tough as a teenager. Losing a very beloved pet in a tragic way, was tough. Getting sexually assaulted was tough. Oh and with no therapy or checking in on me even though I was clearly not doing well. Instead she screamed in my face, hit me, pushed me down, threw papers all over the house.
So yeah, it's understandable that I struggled in high school eventually. And yes my daughter is bound to make mistakes, have teen hormones and angst just like everyone. But to nearly wish HER to do poorly is just so low.