u/FutureCombination629

I am a 43f. Been dating a 41m for about 3mos. Things have progressed quickly tbh. To the point i actually just let him move in. And im having doubts. He's great and we get along great...but I dont feel he's sexually attracted to me. I have a pretty healthy libido and want to enjoy sex while I still can. We've only had sex a few times and besides the first time its only been after complaining from me.

I hate feeling like I have to beg for sex and I hate feeling like im pressuring someone into sleeping with me. I feel like a jerk guy who coerces women into sleeping with them.

We've discussed it and he tells me he's just too tired to have sex. But today we spent the day at home together and I made a few comments about wanting to and he ignored every comment and we watched a movie and when it was over he went to sleep. I cant sleep so im on reddit. I dont like feeling rejected and im thinking about how he's a great guy but we're only 3mos in and already arguing over sex.

Every time I've tried to have a conversation he gets defensive and tells me he's tired and sex isn't the most important part of a relationship. I agree but it is important. To me anyway.

Its hurting my self-esteem because ive never had this problem in a relationship and its hurting my pride because I dont want to keep arguing about it and then we have sex. Its honestly making me less interested in sex with him and at 3mos in thats a huge red flag. If I just stop asking for it and arguing over it I'll never have sex. That obviously doesn't make me happy so im considering telling him this doesn't have long-term potential and I'll let him stay til the lease is up as a friend. But I feel like a jerk for prioritizing sex but a passionate relationship is something ive honestly missed since being single.

I also dont know if I should even bring it up. We just wont have sex for the next 5mos and when the lease is up we just go our separate ways without me ever saying a word to save my pride and an argument.

F, 43, bmi 27.

Last time I had a check up was a year ago. Normal bp, normal metabolic panel, wore a heart monitor for 4 days, it came back at average hr of 88, lowest was 55, highest was 120. It mentioned less than 1% pac burden and mild tachycardia throughout but no need to follow up with cardiology.

I was recently invited to join a gym and do zumba classes with a friend. Also going to start eating healthier and I am a smoker and want to cut back and ultimately quit.

Should I get another check up first? Im worried with my age anything could happen.

Hi everyone! Im excited to begin this journey.

A little background on me.

I was with a man from 21-32 and never used bc. He had 3 kids. My periods were every 28 days like clockwork but no pregnancy. I thought it wasn't possible.

Met another man and got pregnant 7mos later at 35. Went to the dr at 9wks, hcg was 150,000 and the ultrasound showed a fetus and fetal pole. But fetus measured 8wks 0 days and no hb.

Less than a year later my boyfriend became ill and passed away. I hadn't met anyone else that stuck til now.

My periods are different now, cycles are 25-27 days. No other signs of peri.

We had sex on day 13. The day before that I had tons of ewcm but we had sex the day after not day of. I figured i was too old to really try. But the next day he randomly asked me if id have a baby with him. We are going to try naturally and i recently started a new job and insurance kicks in on the 1st so im gonna get a check up and see what my options are. If not successful we'll start the process of using donor eggs but I guess this will be the first month of disappointment as I dont think the first try is successful at 43. But im excited to try and hopefully naturally become pregnant. Hopefully a sticky baby!

Nice to meet you all!