u/Future_Pressure_8857

I know I have no say over his recovery. We were together for 8 years, in February he got his second DUI and we broke up. He went to inpatient rehabs in March. We remained in contact, his things were still in our apartment, I had his cat while he moved in with a mentor who would help him financially and for housing.

We talked about healing, would argue when we tried to talk about what happened together. We talked about healing apart and then eventually going to couples counseling. We went on a trip together three months ago to see his step mom and we had sex. Two weeks ago, he told me he had a trip with an AA group and didn’t talk to me the entire trip. I felt off so I straight up asked him, are you dating someone? He responded “yeah, I am”, someone from his AA group. This person flew him out states away to see him and knew he was talking to me (not sure to what depth bc this is coming from him). I asked him when they started dating and he said in June after meeting them in March.

I asked him to block me because it was too hard to handle. We spoke for a bit and I did let out frustration about him lying to me and keeping me on the back burner. He said he loves this person and wants to make it work with them. I feel stuck because he’s not even a year sober and already seemingly moved on.

I know no matter what I need to get over it, I just can’t stop thinking about them sleeping together and him just throwing us away after 8 years. He did block me as I requested but I freaked out and emailed him twice because his sentencing is tomorrow. We were best friends, even after the breakup we said we were family. I know I requested the block but I’m going crazy over here. Has anyone else experienced this? Can anyone help?