How long did it take you to get over your avoidant partner?
My relationship with my avoidant partner lasted about a year and a half. We broke up seven months ago. The last time we saw each other was four months ago,when we met up to talk things over.
After the breaup, I often blamed myself, thinking I should have been more patient or shouldn't have been so critical. I was absolutely devastated. This relationship dredged up a great deal of old trauma and deep seated fears. Following the breakup, I was kinda in a depressive state barely able to do anything at all. The first eight weeks were the hardest for me. Things improved somewhat after that, though I did suffer another breakdown after our final meeting.
Now, for the most part, I feel most of the time anger and frustration that he wasn't willing to fight for our relationship. After seven months, I am finally able to delete our chat history, sort through our photos, and throw away some of his belongings. Yet, I still find myself thinking about us and what could have been. Sometimes I still cling to the hope that he might come back, even though I know that it would be best for us to simply let things go.
How long did it take you to find closure?