A few days ago, I moved to a new city with my boyfriend, and I do not have any friends or support system here yet. Recently, we needed to replace the lock on our apartment door, so we bought a new lock and sat down to install it. I was interested in learning how to do it and asked my boyfriend if I could stay with him while he worked so he could teach me. However, he told me to stay away, so I left him alone and started doing my own things nearby without arguing or interrupting him.
For approximately one to one and a half hours, he did not speak to me at all. During that time, he was mostly lying down or sleeping while I sat nearby quietly doing my own work. Eventually, after the lock had already been installed, he came to me and asked if I was sad or angry. By that point, I felt hurt because I had genuinely wanted to learn, but the opportunity had already passed.
Later, he asked me to go with him to collect clothes from the laundry room outside the building. I refused because I was still upset. He left alone, and I stayed home cooking while crying. At one point, I believed he was in another room, but he had actually left the apartment again without informing me and returned more than an hour later.
When he came back, he casually asked if I was still angry, but there was no meaningful conversation about what had happened. We ate, and afterward I slept on the floor without a blanket while he slept on the bed. He did not offer me any blanket or comfort.
Around midnight, I felt emotionally overwhelmed and suffocated inside the apartment, so I decided to go outside for a walk to calm myself. While I was locking the door behind me, he woke up and asked where I was going. I told him I was going for a walk. Despite the late hour, he simply said “okay, go,” and then locked all the doors behind me.
Outside, everything was closed and there were very few people around. It was raining, dark, and I had nowhere to go because I do not know anyone in this city. I spent hours wandering outside and eventually sat in the backyard area of the apartment building in the rain without shelter.
About an hour later, he sent me a message asking if I was okay. I replied that I was, and after that he did not contact me again. I later returned to the apartment around 3 a.m., completely wet and shivering from the cold rain. When I entered the room, he briefly woke up, looked at me, and then went back to sleep without saying anything.
The next morning, he left for work as usual, and there was no further discussion about the situation.