u/GayBearWilderness

Marking NSFW just in case.

Something I’ve been thinking about, and I know this coming from a 19yr old kid who lives in a small town, is that the dating scene is not meant for actual connection and more so based on just hookups. Which i know has been apparent for ever, I’ve just noticed that it seems to become more normalized and glorified and that most people are wanting that rather than trying to find the one.

Like I don’t think I’ve really found anyone willing to go past the few “heys” and “how are you doing?”

I feel like at this point that maybe just looking for FWB/dates and hookups may be the only way I get some intimacy and it hurts, ‘cause i know I want to explore sexually but have had bad experiences. (I am ftm which makes things harder, wish it didn’t but it does)

The other being I feel wrong for liking older guys.

To sum it up, I am ranting about how lonely of a world it is out there and how isolating it is being in a smaller area that has a lack of resources. No friends, no dates, no community.

Hey, I’m 19 and am gonna be traveling to the Fort Collins/Loveland area and staying for a while and was curious if there is any outdoors groups or areas to meet other folks. I’m coming from a small town and am hoping to try to experience life outside of small town.

Hey y’all, I’m 19 turning 20 soon. I’ve been thinking about trying to get into more of the hookups and FWB stuff because at this point relationships aren’t in the picture, not for a lack of trying. I want to also be able to explore what I like sexually and stuff.

I do live in a small conservative area which definitely makes things more rough in terms of everything but I am planning on traveling soon.

I am not on prEp or BC, but I don’t like PIV. I’m still a little inexperienced when it comes to Anal.

What are your recommendations for being safe and any other advice you can give?

Howdy y’all, I am 19 so this makes me feel even more stupid for feeling this way. Possible trigger warning

I live in a small town in a red state so this makes dating and friends practically non existent

So I’m tired. Tired of being alone, tired of trying to date, tired of feeling like I don’t belong. I know that you’re supposed to be okay being by yourself but I’ve tried. But I can’t just sit at home and not have anyone to talk to about things you don’t wanna talk to your family about. Not having anyone to go on adventures with or make new memories with.

I also want to be able to explore the hookup/FWB scene ‘cause I don’t think a relationship is in the cards in this dating era. Maybe it’s my fault for being picky? But I am scared to do that, I’m not on prEp nor BC (I don’t like PIV) and have had some rather unpleasant experiences.

Recently I did have some issues with the hole that shall not be named that really messed with my head and still is. I can’t afford surgery nor would my insurance cover anything and it’s discouraging but that’s irrelevant to the post.

I’m just so tired of not having people to talk to, hang out with, someone I can tell about the weird thing that happened. I’m tired of not having my person.

I know I’m young and need to move out of state but I know I can’t live on my own and I have no idea where to go or how to find people to live with and everything.

I hate how I also have a thing for older guys (30+) ‘cause I feel like it’s wrong for me to like them. Or me having a preference for cis men.