u/General-Assistant570

Hey hey! I (24F) have been sleeping with my close friend (26M) for about 5 months now. We weren’t super close friends when we met because we were both new to the country we’re in, but we’ve become good friends over the months and share the same friend group

I’m not even sure if I have an explicit question from this post, maybe this is more of a vent? Some perspective of anyone who has been in this situation?

Basically the fwb is getting very intimate.
We’ve started and stopped having sex in our friendship a couple times because every time we sleep together it gets so emotional. We’ve tried to have the boundary recently of not sleeping together on weeknights/every time we hang and try to make it more of a “drunk after the bar sex” situation, but that hasn’t worked. Most times he makes me dinner, I do the dishes, we sleep together, cuddle for literal hours, and then he falls asleep in my arms.

I thought he was a lot more sexually experienced than me, so when we were doing things in sex that were new and very personal for me, I thought they were just normal to him to do in a fwb situation. But lately we’ve been having conversations and I’ve found out most of what we’ve done he’s never done before. There’s specifically been three things sexually we’ve done lately that we’ve both really liked that we were giggling about because we’d both never done them before, and they just happened naturally.

I’m getting attached to this man. It’s hard - we’re friends, so obviously we hang out outside of sex. But it’s gotten to the point where everyone we meet assumes we’re a couple, and we have to correct them. This weekend we were in the park and a coworker of his (who I’ve met before) addressed me as his gf, and what were we supposed to say? We were laying together in the grass and he was holding my purse for me.

The issue is that we’re just not compatible as a couple. We have such different communication styles, and it just wouldn’t work. We’ve had a few arguments and we have to try so so hard to see each other’s sides in disagreements - it’s like we feel the same things, but we express them in almost opposite ways. I’ve told him that we should just enjoy the time we have together, and we have the mindset that we’re friends who are just sleeping together for a time, and it will end because I’m moving a few hours away in October.

I know he has hinge and I have tinder. I try to go on dates, but the motivation is low when I have such easy, reliably good sex from him. A few weekends ago when we were at a bar he was drunk and was like “we’ve been sleeping together for months, does this mean nothing to you?” And I told him of course it did.

Basically I’m fucked. I stg I can usually have sex casually with people regularly and not catch feelings, this is the first time this has happened like this. Help?

Hey hey! I (24F) have been sleeping with my close friend (26M) for about 5 months now. We weren’t super close friends when we met because we were both new to the country we’re in, but we’ve become good friends over the months and share the same friend group

I’m not even sure if I have an explicit question from this post, maybe this is more of a vent? Some perspective of anyone who has been in this situation?

Basically the fwb is getting very intimate.
We’ve started and stopped having sex in our friendship a couple times because every time we sleep together it gets so emotional. We’ve tried to have the boundary recently of not sleeping together on weeknights/every time we hang and try to make it more of a “drunk after the bar sex” situation, but that hasn’t worked. Most times he makes me dinner, I do the dishes, we sleep together, cuddle for literal hours, and then he falls asleep in my arms.

I thought he was a lot more sexually experienced than me, so when we were doing things in sex that were new and very personal for me, I thought they were just normal to him to do in a fwb situation. But lately we’ve been having conversations and I’ve found out most of what we’ve done he’s never done before. There’s specifically been three things sexually we’ve done lately that we’ve both really liked that we were giggling about because we’d both never done them before, and they just happened naturally.

I’m getting attached to this man. It’s hard - we’re friends, so obviously we hang out outside of sex. But it’s gotten to the point where everyone we meet assumes we’re a couple, and we have to correct them. This weekend we were in the park and a coworker of his (who I’ve met before) addressed me as his gf, and what were we supposed to say? We were laying together in the grass and he was holding my purse for me.

The issue is that we’re just not compatible as a couple. We have such different communication styles, and it just wouldn’t work. We’ve had a few arguments and we have to try so so hard to see each other’s sides in disagreements - it’s like we feel the same things, but we express them in almost opposite ways. I’ve told him that we should just enjoy the time we have together, and we have the mindset that we’re friends who are just sleeping together for a time, and it will end because I’m moving a few hours away in October.

I know he has hinge and I have tinder. I try to go on dates, but the motivation is low when I have such easy, reliably good sex from him. A few weekends ago when we were at a bar we was drunk and was like “we’ve been sleeping together for months, does this mean nothing to you?” And I told him of course it did.

Basically I’m fucked. I stg I can usually have sex casually with people regularly and not catch feelings, this is the first time this has happened like this. Help?