u/GeorgeL42

I think that most parents care about their children but I don't see how it make's any sense that that it is not more common for parents to take more accountability for the way their children turn out, everyone knows that parents are the biggest influence on their children and yet I think that most parents just simply don't do what they know they should. Maybe it is simply a lack of intelligence / knowing, idk but to me I feel like someone such as Richard Williams who made that whole plan of how he would raise his daughters before they were even born so that they could succeed as much as possible, that should be a standard. Parents should all be taking their role more seriously and trying to help develop their child as much as possible in all ways, I'm not saying they all need to force their children to study and train 24/7, just that the majority should be having a higher priority on developing their children into functional healthy adults and taking more accountability for how they turn out.

I had been trying to be consistent in the gym for a couple years but only having maybe a week or 2 of consistency sporadically but then with large gaps of time in between, It was multiple years of no progress what so ever. The 3 things that helped me actually start being consistent and working out 6 days a week every week for a couple months now were...

1. Start with just going to the gym everyday of your chosen workout plan even if you don’t do anything at all besides walk in and then walk straight out just as long you got there and went inside because that way you are building the habit of going to the gym consistently and getting comfortable in there and as a result of going consistently you can start to identify yourself with that habit which will motivates you more to workout and minimise the anxiety around starting at the gym that a lot of people feel.

2. You may feel too tired to start working out or feel fatigued after a single exercise, what worked for me was starting with just doing a singular set of all your exercises, then the next session you do 2 sets of all of them and so on building up to doing your full amount.

3. Understanding progressive overload so I could actually start making gains, I kept stressing over trying to get exactly 8 reps of 3 sets of all my exercises for my sessions and so I would only increase the weight on the last set then increase it from back to front as I progressed instead of the correct way being from front to back, increasing your weight in your first set from what you were able to do in your last session. This way started to actually give me the big newbie gains that I had expected and was the biggest motivator for me as every single session I was making visible progress. Go till failure but specifically failure of your technique, don't try to do a movement without using the right technique, it will just lead to injuries and won't even give you any real benefit.

PS. Everyone has different ways they workout and insist their way is best but I have seen good results from many different methods. I use to worry about the method all the time of how I worked out but really as long as your consistently making progress that is all that matters. Even if your method is terrible and your making no real visible gains your still bound to be benefitting from exercise as long as you are still exercising. The right methods have been studied but if doing it the "correct" way doesn’t motivate you as much and you can’t keep consistent with it then it doesn’t matter at all that it's technically more effective, just learn to enjoy it, the energy you get, the pride of doing something difficult, the satisfaction of progress. Stay with it until your making some gains and you will start to love it.

I've lived my whole life in Townsville and considering moving down to Brisbane soon. For context I'm 20, work at a bottle shop, do ubereats on the side and will be moving into another random share house when I go. So just wanted to ask for any sort of advice anyone may have as I don't know much at all about where would be a good areas to move to, where should be avoided as well as stuff like the traffic as I've heard that its pretty terrible and that I'll need to pay tolls but I also feel like it can be avoided if I choose to go around those specific roads, honestly don't know much about what its like there, have only visited a couple times for vacations with family and now I just want to leave Townsville for a big city. Any advice at all is appreciated, thankyou.