Help?
Maybe I could get some intel on here.
I’m frustrated at the moment because I (26F) can’t seem to get into the Christian dating world or even talked to by guys and I don’t really understand why.
I take good care of myself health and fitness-wise. I put effort into the way I look (not solely for men, but in ways that I like). I want kids and work with them. I want to go traveling with someone. Most importantly, I’m active in my church and my faith is the number one thing in my life and try to align everything with God’s will.
Yet any of the few times I’ve been asked out in the past or a guy DMs me, they’re the complete opposite and out of the few, I’ve been asked out by a lot of very overweight men. I mean this in the kindest way possible, I’m just not attracted to that because health is very important to me.
I may add that I am not the best at talking to people I don’t know (at least by myself😅) and always get anxious about saying the right thing, which I’m working on. I’ve had some really bad experiences from people (especially guys) that have left me hurt, which also makes me anxious. I’m working through this in biblical counseling atm.
I know this is kind of a lot of rambling at this point, but I’m just unsure why I can’t seem to attract the kind of Godly man I want to marry. Are Godly men just scared of talking to me or are none of them interested? I would love to get some outside perspective🫶🏻