u/Ghostie__cat

Hi everyone. I’m young, 21, and my ex is 23 so I know this is pretty normal to have a break up at this age but I’m honestly devastated.

My now ex needs to work on their mental health, for many reasons, they have so much going on, and I respect the decision so much. I know this will be good for us both as they think/know if we keep being together it will only hurt us both down the road. I’m just finding it really hard because I keep going through these cycles of grief, reflection, rumination, what-ifs, all this stuff, and I don’t know how to get out of it.

I see my therapist in 5 days and I know we will work together to help my heartbreak but it doesn’t make it any less hard.

Honestly, I am not sure what I want to get out of writing this, maybe people sharing their own experiences? Stuff I can do to get myself to feel better? I don’t know. I’m struggling a lot.

hi, like the title says- my (21F) ocd will latch onto the smallest things from my partner (23F) and run with them, and then when something DOES happen and I bring it up because I’m hurt, the responses I get just push me so much further because they are struggling with their own mental health (like anxiety, depression, dissociative disorders, past abuse). I know it’s neither of our faults but I’m so worried we are gonna break up because I can’t let things go and seek reassurance, and they don’t provide because…. well, I don’t actually know why. if anyone wants screenshots of some convos I’d be willing to provide. I don’t know what do to, and it’s hurting me so badly, nor do I have anyone to talk to. my family judges hard and I’m afraid none of my close friends like my partner (which isn’t true, also my ocd, but I don’t want to go to them anyways because it’s gonna make it worse UGH).