u/Gioella

Safe to put baby between mom and dad?

We’re a cosleeping family travelling tomorrow and I can’t sleep !
My son is 8 months, EBF, 22 pounds, 99 percentile for height, strong and loud but is still figuring out crawling (he can mostly crawl backwards lol) can sit independently but not sit up on his own.
He’s very active and mobile so him and me sleep on a mattress on the floor while dad is in the spare room. He’s fallen off our floor mattress before (baby, not dad, lol)

We’re going to be staying at a friend’s house with a normal, elevated, queen bed. We’ll have access to an infant crib though. What would you do if you were me?
Put the baby in the crib and get up 1290 times a night ? Or put the baby between me and my husband, thus acting as human bed rails ?

None of us drink, smoke or do drugs. We won’t be using any blankets. I don’t know how firm the bed is.

I remember reading sweet sleep by la lecce league and them saying starting 4 months a baby can co sleep with any responsible, sober adult. I also remember them talking about the two parents acting like human bed rails. But I also know that in SS7, they say the baby shouldn’t be between the two parents. I don’t know which is the age cut off.

I literally have anxiety at the thought of not cosleeping. And I really want us to all sleep together ! This whole thing is making my vacation such a source of stress…

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u/Gioella — 1 day ago

He’s fine, I’m fine, we’re fine right?

We‘ve been happily cosleeping / breast sleeping on a mattress + slats on the floor (11 inches total). Best, most life changing decision ever.

Yesterday night, my very active 8 months old fell from our mattress onto one of the thick yoga mats I had laid down around it. We both barely woke up, I don’t remember if he cried, I just held him and breastfed him again and we both drifted back to sleep.

He‘s been acting normally today (well, fussy, but this has been our normal ahah).

I know he’s fine and I’m pretty happy I made the decision to ditch the bed frame. But I guess I just need reassurance.

We’re fine, right? I don’t need to call the doctor? We don’t need to change anything about our habits? Even if it might happen again?

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u/Gioella — 6 days ago

First backcarry ever, how did we do?

I used my Didymos Didyklik half-buckle.

My baby is 7.5 months and 10kg (22lbs). He can sit independently but cannot get himself into a seated position.

I feel pretty confident front and hip carrying now using my various carriers (thanks to this sub, in big part!) but I don’t know much about back carrying ! I feel like the fit could be tighter ? Is there too much space between my son and I ? I’ve read about “shoulder to shoulder” somewhere but it seems like it would be hard to get him so high ?

is he safe like this ? it’s pretty disturbing not to be able to see him and check on him!

edit : typo

u/Gioella — 12 days ago