AITAH for not speaking to my grandma anymore after she smacked me and told me she hoped I’d die
Hi this is my first time posting, i literally just downloaded the app to ask about this.
This has been such a heavy topic in life and is effecting my mental health very poorly. I have a young child that misses her and I’m not sure how to explain that we won’t be seeing her again.
I 27f picked my grandma 65f up to go shopping on March 28 (no kings day) the day after my birthday. When I got off the highway going to tjmaxx there were a lot of crowds and she asked what all those people were doing. I suggested it was probably protests due to it being no kings day, she replied with “not around here they wouldn’t do that around here”
My grandmother has been conservative and racist my whole life, but never to the point of wearing a red hat (at least I thought).
She immediately started talking about one of her coworkers “I work with this young black girl and she used to have these long pretty braids, but now she’s got an Afro, idk why she’s got to have an Afro, anyway she’s always talking about ‘the orange man this, the orange man that’ and I just told her, young lady some people have a difference of opinion”
She then turns to me as I’m pulling to a red light and asked if I agreed. Now, i wanted to scream because I was angry about how she began the conversation, but I calmly said “at this point I no longer think it’s about a difference of opinion, I’ve gone on the doj website and read some of the files myself, it’s sickening stuff. And to think our president is a pdfile-“ she cut me off and started SCREAMING “DONALD TRUMP IS NOT A FUCKING PDFILE” I then calmly stated that I was taking her home and when the light turned green I turned AND THIS CRAZY OLD LADY TRIED TO JUMP OUT OF MY FUCKING CAR!!! She started screaming that I will not be taking her home, that we would be going shopping and she wanted to buy me clothes.
This was literally at the busiest point of the protests and there were people everywhere so I told her I would go to the store.
I was so dumbfounded at what had just happened and we were sitting in traffic with the protest happening all around us, I rolled my window down and started cheering and yelling that I was proud of what they stood for and my grandma started hitting me screaming that we were all stupid bitches, and we should all (myself and the protesters) eat a bag of dicks. At that point I was pretty pissed off so I yelled out the window “my grandma is a Trump supporter and she can’t stand this shit” and then I started honking with a lot of other cars. When the light turned green I continued towards the store, she kept screaming the same things over and over until I screamed at the top of my lungs for her to shut the fuck up.
At this point she is asking me why I am screaming at her?!?! Like are you fucking kidding me?!
She kept asking why I care, “why do you even care about stuff that doesn’t affect you” I said that it does affect me and many people I love so I will never back down and never stop supporting what’s right. Then she just said “stupid bitch”.
At this point we were down the street from the store and I just stopped and told her to get out of my car. ( we were not far from her home where her car and boyfriend were. Also it was infront of target so go walk around until he gets here.)
But she did not just get out of my car because why would it be that easy, instead she starts screaming again saying “27f I will smack you”
I just said go ahead, because wtf am I gonna do. She hauled of and smacked the shit out of me and then tried getting ontop of me fighting me!!!
I had to push her against the passenger door and told her to get the fuck out of my car or she would never see myself or my child again, I sat back and said I was calling the police and she said “seriously your going to call the police on your grandmother” I just said yes and she finally opened the door and said “okay stupid bitch, I hope you fucking die”
I WAS GOBSMACKED
She slammed the door and i immediately drove off, my sister was supposed to be meeting us so i called her and told her not to come, and what she had said to me, at that point i started bawling so i had to pull over and collect myself, my chest started hurting and I couldn’t breath.
(She texted my sister while I was on the phone with her and said that I got mad at her and kicked her out of the car)
Now i have a young child 6 who misses her, i simply told them that she had said some very hurtful things and that we wouldn’t be seeing her again. I know they are not satisfied with this response but I don’t know how much more is appropriate.
We have an event coming up where she may be present and I don’t know how to mentally prepare for it. I do not want her speaking to my child, so my first thought is to have myself or my boyfriend just turn and go the other way with my child and the other stay behind to assert the boundary that neither myself or my son want to hear from or speak to her.
So wibta if I didn’t speak to her again?