u/GlitteringRainbowCat

Hey there,

first I wanna thank you for all the responses in my original post. I really appreciate it.

For the update: The day after my original post, I reached out to my friend and asked, if she has time the next few days. We meet today for a nice long stroll in the park. The beginning was kind of awkward, because we never had a fight before. Normally it's also not a problem, when life is busy and we don't write for a few days or even weeks but today it somehow feels strange. I'm not a fan of beating around the bush, so I simply asked her "So, in that burger place... What exactly triggered you?"

Honestly, it was like poking a water balloon. She apologized for everything and how afraid she was I might be still mad at her and apologized some more. Then she explained to me, what her trigger was. What can I say, we all were kind of wrong.

You guys, it's her aunt! She has an aunt, who will always bring a few boxes for family gatherings. But instead of waiting until everyone is done and the food is BACK in the kitchen, which is fine, she sometimes fills the boxes BEFORE it goes to the table. Because my friends grandma knows of this behavior, she started to cook even more, but the aunt just brought more boxes as well. But that's not all! Said aunt will also bring boxes to restaurants and if they order different meals, so everyone can have a try from all the plates, she's like "Noone wants that anymore, right?", and packs, while people are still eating. My friend is a slow eater, so often her aunt filled her boxes, before she could try everything she wanted.

I always wanted to use the word flabbergasted in a post. I think this is the right time. I was definitely flabbergasted! How impudent can a person be?!

I asked, why noone is saying anything about it, but they are all just too tired to deal with her outbreaks. It's easier to say nothing. I felt that....

So yeah, she knew it was my food and everything, but it also triggered her real bad.

I apologized as well for not warning her, but she said it was totally her fault. I said, I will make sure the next time, but she was like "Nono, it's a nice way to work on it."

Well, in the end we had a really nice stroll, talked about different things and everything is good. I'm really glad, that we cleared that out though.

Thank you for reading this. Have a great day and a nice week.

Hey there,

I think, I need a few strangers from the internet to decide what's going on here.

So, a few weeks ago I (f) went to a burger place with a girl friend of mine. I know they serve quite big burgers and in the past, I always had leftovers. So I decided to bring a Tupperware this time, just in case. I ordered my burger, added some wedges and enjoyed my meal while having a super nice conversation. I ate maybe a third of the wedges and not even half of the burger and decided to stop, because I also wanted some dessert.

After ordering, I pulled out my box and started to fill it with my leftovers. You know, I felt quite clever: I didn't overeat and there was still space for dessert in my belly; I didn't had to pay a buck or so for the doggy bag, which had leaked in my bag in the past and there would be enough for next days lunch. So a triple win, if you will.

After everything was packed and I put the box in my bag, I realized, my friend was kind of quite, but didn't thought much about it. She tends to be quiet after eating.

After we were done, everyone paid for their own meal and we left. Then she looked at me and was like "oh my gosh, this was sooo embarrassing." I was confused. She explained to me, how awkward she felt and people were staring and what not and was kind of mad. I explained my point of view the benefits and all, but nope.

In the end I was like "Please calm down, it's not like I took the box to an All you can eat-buffet and stuff it full in front of the waiters. We also didn't split the bill, so it's fine I ordered more with tomorrow in mind."

She still was mad. So we went out separate ways.

But here's the thing: I still think it's a good, environment friendly way and did it again while eating with a guy friend a few days ago, he was like" Woah, that's neat! " and even gave me some of his onion rings.

So, dear strangers of the internet, AITA or not? Should I have communicated before pulling out my box? Should I have asked the waiter (which hadn't said anything at all) or should I just buy the leftover box from the restaurant next time? I absolutely don't know. Please share your thoughts with me.

Ah, what also comes to my mind: I'm quite overweight and struggle with BED, so I was happy to not overeat. My friend has normal weight and has no ED as far as I know.

Thank you for reading.

Edit: Thank you for all your replies so far. I'll answer a few things here:

1. Where are you from? Central Europe (this thread is huge, so that should be specific enough).
2. Here it's super common to pay for one use items (for example boxes in restaurants and plastic bags).
3. It was not a date. Maybe the term "female friend" would have been better. But yeah, it was just a girls dinner.
4. I can be a little eccentric from time to time and all my friends now that. But she and I weren't out for lunch/dinner often.
5. In general she's a very nice and pleasant person to be around and we have a good time together. I'm pretty sure, there was some kind of trigger. I will contact her tomorrow and try to talk to her. So there might be an update coming

Hallöchen 🤗

Hat wer von euch eine Empfehlung für ein Trockenschampoo, dass auf dunkellila Haaren nicht staubig ausschaut?

Meine Erfahrungen mit TS sind eher mäßig, vor dem Färben hab ich hin und wieder welches benutzt, was für dunkelbraune Haare war. Das war okay, aber irgendwie nie optimal. Hab mich natürlich schon gefragt, ob ich es überhaupt richtig anwende 😅

Nun sind meine Haare lila 💜

Ich hab keine Restbestände mehr, um zu testen was geht und was nicht, daher wäre ich vor einem Neukauf über eure Empfehlungen wirklich sehr dankbar.

Einen schönen Tag noch ✨