u/GlitteringUnicorn888

I’m moving from out of state and have pretty much narrowed down my search to Mill Creek. From everything I’ve researched, it seems like a really nice and relatively safe area, but I’d love to hear from people who actually live there.

The apartment complex I’m seriously considering is Mill Creek Meadows. It fits my budget really well, and I like the location, but the reviews are pretty mixed. Some people seem to love living there while others have had some negative experiences, and honestly it’s giving me a little anxiety since I’ll be moving from out of state.

I don’t have the luxury to fly out and look at apartments I am doing this blind due to a job offer I have to accept immediately and will get started right away .

I (34F) have been with my boyfriend (37M) for six years. For his birthday, the only thing he wanted to do was go to Six Flags and ride all of the big roller coasters.

The problem is, I am genuinely petrified of roller coasters. The extreme heights, the drops, and that feeling of falling are huge fears of mine . And this is something that I have told him multiple times.

For his birthday the last two years, I went to Six Flags anyway and rode the roller coasters with him because I wanted to make him happy. I wanted to see him smile and make his birthday special, even though I was extremely uncomfortable. Those experiences were honestly traumatic for me, and I did not enjoy myself. When I hear a chain I am mentally on the ride and ready to drop and my heart beats so fast.

This year, I finally told him I didn’t want to ride the big roller coasters anymore. I told him I would still go to Six Flags with him, spend the day there, walk around, and enjoy the park. I just didn’t want to go on the rides that scare me.

He became very upset and started mocking me, saying I need to “grow up” and that it is pathetic for an adult to be scared of roller coasters. He told me I was acting like a child.

What hurt me the most was when I asked if the last two times I pushed through my fear and rode them for him meant anything. He said no, because I’m an adult and I should have just gotten over it.

I eventually put my foot down and said I would not ride them this time. He still set alarms for 8 AM for me to get up and get ready, almost like he expected me to change my mind. When I didn’t get up, the whole day turned into an argument.

He called me selfish, said I ruin every birthday, and said I was a piece of shit for not doing this one thing for him. I kept repeating that I would go to Six Flags, I just would not ride the big roller coasters.

Later, he asked nicely if I would go tomorrow. I gave the same answer: I’ll go, but I won’t ride the scary roller coasters. He than tells me , “Don’t worry, message received. I’ll make your life hell for ruining another year of my birthday. I’ll find a way to break up.”

Now I’m sitting here crying and wondering if I’m actually the asshole. Am I being selfish? Is being afraid of roller coasters something I should just force myself through because it’s his birthday? Or is it reasonable to have a boundary about something that genuinely scares me? I know this probably sounds so dumb to even say but he’s making me believe I am being a selfish asshole because I am scared .

I’m not refusing to spend time with him or celebrate his birthday. I’m only refusing to do one specific activity that causes me extreme fear and trauma.

AITA?

or am I being dramatic ?