u/Glittering_Aspect756

Shoot me a DM if you’re an Argentine woman interested in chatting with an American man.

My wife wants to be a nurse, but after doing some research I see it’s insanely difficult to get into a nursing program at community colleges here in SoCal. There are plenty of for profit schools that will charge tens of thousands (not worth it to go into mountains of debt IMO when there are cheap options out of state). ADN programs are near impossible to get accepted to here. I see just a few hours east of us there are schools in Arizona that are much easier to get into. Does anyone have any experience making this sort of move, or know anyone who did who can explain how they benefited from making this kind of move just to get the nursing degree?

What do you wish you had known before moving here? Trying to escape the insane housing prices here in SoCal, where a basic small home costs $600k plus. I see a lot of townhome inventory for south of $400k that catches my eye. Anything I should know before potentially making a move to Arizona? I don’t mind the heat.

My manager (located on the opposite side of the country from me) is becoming more and more absent overall lately. I am spearheading efforts where I interface with different groups at our organization, with my manager invited to those meetings. My manager accepts the invites, but out of the past few meetings they have always had an excuse saying they can’t make it, or that they’ll be late but never end up joining.

They later said they were sorry they didn’t make the meetings, but said “but you have a good handle on it anyway”. All they do is meet with me on 1:1 meetings weekly to ask when my deliverables will be ready for them to pass up the chain. It’s like they are solely focused on the metrics they are gauged on and disinterested in even participating in meetings that I’m driving. When I express challenges I am facing, they don’t offer any advice or assistance or any guidance at all. They just nod along and continue to emphasis that the work needs to get done and to let them know when it’s ready. Again, focused solely on the metrics they are measured by.

I’m not asking them to do the work or even lead the meetings - I’m just asking them to be present and available when discussions around key initiatives are being held, and have them weigh in with their experience and knowledge, and to back me up. And yet they are perpetually late or don’t show up at all.

On the few meetings that they are forced to be on because those they report to or people higher up than them at the company are on, they message me to tell me “I’ll let you lead this one”, and they have done this repeatedly for every meeting we have been in lately, as if I haven’t been the one leading every meeting already, like they are on a mission to just be a fly on the wall at every opportunity.

It’s very frustrating. Is this behavior common? What are your thoughts?

From an official communication from the U.S. Department of Education I received in an email, notice has been given that if you applied for SAVE (which will now be denied) and your application was pending (meaning you never officially switched to SAVE because your application wasn’t approved and you were in limbo during SAVE forbearance) and don’t choose a new plan, your loan servicer will place your loans back into the repayment plan they were enrolled in before you applied for SAVE.