A dad with temperament issues and a "keep the peace" mom.
(I am not sure if this is the correct subreddit for this. If it's not, i apologise in advance).
There's not much to say, really.
First off, let me be clear about something: my parents are not and have never been physically abusive. They have always cared for me. I love them and I know they love me.
Now:
My dad has anger issues. He'd never been taught to control his anger properly by his own parents. While he's never physically hit me or mom or anything, he does raise his voice whenever he gets angry about.. anything.
Even I have anger issues, I will admit. But i do not yell at everyone and try and make them feel small. I usually just act dismissive/mildly irritated.
It is useless to try and argue with my dad. I know this by now. He barely lets me get the words out and just shuts me down with words he is well aware that i cannot counter. He uses logic and facts like a fucking sledgehammer.
My mom.. I love her. But she is a very.. "keep the peace" kinda person. She does stand up to my dad, and takes my side when he's overdoing it, but never fully. She almost always ends up agreeing with him (cuz admittedly: he's mostly being logical), and telling me to suck it up, basically, even if she'd agreed with what I'd said earlier, without my dad present.
My dad has yelled at me on multiple occasions; sometimes over things that are very small. I have always apologized for my mistakes. But he has never once apologized to me for raising his voice at me. Not once.
And my mom.. when I tell her about it; about how I was hurt, she just tells me "it will settle down in a few days." It's as if the only thing that matters is his calmness so the house is quiet.
I am tired of it.
I mainly just wanted to vent. But any advice will also be appreciated.