u/Glittering_Loan_718

I am 7 weeks pregnant and live in California. I am pursuing a medical abortion (this will be my first abortion). I have already gotten two transvaginal ultrasounds and two hcg blood tests with my provider. I went to a planned parenthood appointment and they informed me I would need another transvaginal ultrasound with them before I could have the abortion even though I had one with my provider earlier this week. I feel right now another ultrasound would be invasive and really hard for me so I am considering Hey Jane. Does anyone have any experience with either methods for a medical abortion?

I am 27F and just found out I am 5 weeks pregnant with an ex boyfriend 27M who I dated five years ago and recently hooked up with. I had used contraception and the morning after pill, and I still got pregnant. I am not in the most ideal spot financially (still live with my parent) but I have a graduate degree level job and feel I could figure it out. I had never envisioned myself having kids, but now that I’m pregnant I feel this pull and desire to keep it. The father is very adamant about me having an abortion and has been asking everyday when I will get one. I was transparent with him that I am leaning towards wanting to keep the baby. He told me he would be an absent father and can’t support me with that process since it will “ruin his life.” I feel very hurt by his response especially because we were in a serious relationship together in our early 20s and he has a really good family and high income job. I almost feel like I am forced to have an abortion. And on top of that I work at a church and recently got out of a three year relationship in February. Part of me feels selfish if I kept the baby because it wouldn’t have a supportive father and be in a broken home. I feel like no one would be happy for me to have this child and that breaks my heart because I already want it. I just feel so alone and this is not what I envisioned a first pregnancy to ever be.

Edit 1: thank you so much for everyone’s who had been supportive so far. To answer some questions I do have health insurance and am located on the west coast. I do have a very stable job with my masters degree and some savings. I just am not in the ideal financial situation I would have hoped for prior to having a family (I do not own my own place). I do have extremely supportive family and friends. I am just faced with a tough decision because of the current circumstance and feel a lot of pressure from him to make the decision to abort.