u/Glittering_Point4813

Hi everyone, I’m here looking for advice from anyone who has been in a situation similar to mine.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 months, and everything has been great. He’s my best friend, and I can’t imagine life without him. I’ve been in relationships before, but I’ve never felt as connected to someone as I do with him. However, the last few weeks have been tough for us, and I’m starting to wonder if we’ve outgrown each other. For example, we seem to be in a bad mood around each other when we meet, we can’t talk about anything without it turning into an argument, and we’re less physically affectionate. I don’t know what’s causing this, but I don’t want things to be this way. I try to ignore the feeling and act like everything’s normal, but I can’t help being short and angry with him, and I hate it. I’m asking for advice from anyone who’s been through something similar or understands this. I keep telling myself this is the best it will get, but there’s this lingering thought that maybe we need to separate because we’re making each other more miserable than happy right now. Do you think this is just a rough patch and we might just need some space? Or have we completely outgrown each other? I really need help. Thank you all!

TLDR: Been with my boyfriend 9 months, usually great but recently we’ve been arguing, distant, and less affectionate. Unsure if it’s a rough patch or if we’ve outgrown each other. Looking for advice.

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u/Glittering_Point4813 — 22 days ago
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i’ve been with my boyfriend for 9 months and we’ve had a pretty good relationship overall, minor ups and downs here and there of course like any other relationship but nothing toxic and to out of hand. we’ve recently reached this rough patch in our relationship and i just feel like everything upsets me. i don’t know if I’m the problem but i just don’t have any space. whenever i mention it he doesn’t really understand it and it turns into an argument. the topic of him moving in with me and my parents has been mentioned but i seriously dont think i can do it. recently the more time we spend together it seems like the more we hate each other like we argue over stupid things and it’s draining. i really want space and want to take time apart just to see but i really don’t know if it’s worth it or if it will even help so if anyone here has been through a similar situation i’m asking for your advice and opinion on this!

TL;DR: i’ve with my boyfriend for 9 months, mostly good but now in a rough patch. i feel overwhelmed and need space, but he doesn’t get it and it turns into arguments. we’ve talked about him moving in, but i think it’ll make things worse. more time together feels like we’re just arguing more, and it’s exhausting. considering taking time apart but unsure if it will help—looking for advice.

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u/Glittering_Point4813 — 25 days ago