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I have super fine hair that struggles to hold onto its wave, but is often frizzy.

When I visit locations where the humidity is super high, my hair really thrives and waves up well. But, otherwise, most of the time, I have to blow dry my hair as it won’t wave up well at all. I (at the very least) have to scrunch my hair when my hair is only a little damp, not wet. Water can weigh my waves down so easily.

Has anyone tried a nano steamer before? I want to try mimicking a very humid climate to stimulate curls, and I don’t want to waste water from the shower to get a humid environment going 😂

So, I am not diagnosed with type 2 (yet), but everyone else in my family is and I’m pretty sure I’m insulin resistant. I’m seeing an endo in a couple weeks about it.

I find that unless I eat like a diabetic, I get full on crashes after I eat anything with too many process carbs (not gluten, I’ve checked). So, that pretty much means I can’t eat normal chips. Lately, I’ve been trying out chick pea chips and they seem to not cause such a crash for me.

Has anyone else tried them and found them to be more helpful at keeping blood sugar stable?

I don’t think this is actually a controversial opinion because I think many people actually live like this and don’t realize it, but often when I bring it up, people seem offended by the idea.

I’m studying therapy with a focus in marriage and family therapy and time and time again I am shown data that supports the idea that the spousal relationship comes first the vast majority of the time and is the foundation for the child in the family (If this is a family where there are two parents, it would be different with one parent for obvious reasons).

The order would ideally be

1. self (because you can’t consistently be there for anyone if you are not consistently well yourself)
2. Spousal/partner relationship (a stable foundation for the child)
3. Relationship with child.

Obviously, this is more possible if your life is privileged enough to have the time to put into yourself and relationship before a child. But ideally, what seems to be the case is that the child needs the parents/spouses/partners to have a strong, stable relationship to create a secure environment for the child to feel safe. If the child can get in between the partners or the spousal relationship is rocky, the child does not feel as safe and time and time again, the child will have more long-term consequences as a result from the instability in the household.

Also, putting the children first often results in the children struggling to have good partnerships when they are older because they don’t know what a healthy romantic relationship looks like.

Now, this applies to most situations, but not for cases of abuse or serious neglect of children by a romantic partner. But in those cases, the romantic relationship should be severed (ideally) anyway, and this three tier dynamic would no longer exist.

I’m expecting a lot of hate, but my opinion is not dependent on the people of the internet lol

Edit: What happens if the child’s needs are almost always superseding the relational needs of the marriage or partnership, eventually that marriage partnership will break down. This has to do with the fact that the marriage is a partnership and the parent/child relationship is hierarchical. I can’t go into this more here because I’m not writing a book on Reddit, but hopefully it helps explain a bit.

I can’t be the only one who thinks Bloomington has terrible city planning.

The 46 and 3rd street is a traffic trap, tenth street on campus is hella dangerous, we have way too many apartment buildings with not enough tenants but don’t have nearly enough single family homes, IU makes it impossible to park on campus but the public transit really sucks now (it used to be better) and the busses don’t go far enough out, they’ve started putting more commercial property next to residential, and only downtown is walkable.

It seems like Bloomington is intentionally shooting itself in the foot with city planning. Anyone else have thoughts?

edit: btw I am from a much larger and more hectic American city that has to manage way more craziness. Bloomington isn’t a poor town, so I don’t understand how it can’t get simple city planning things right.

Hello Reddit Doctors,

So, I have these smelly sneezes that I inherited from one of my parents. I say ”inherited” because it is exactly the same, weird, pungent smell that can reach far across the room. I’ve also never smelled this smell anywhere other than from mine and my parent’s sneezes (I don’t live in the same city as this parent’s side of the family, so I don’t know if anyone else on that side also experiences this). I also have confirmation that others smell it, so it isn’t just me.

I didn’t use to have these sneezes, but it started happening in high school, and then more and more as I got older. And I’ve looked into it tons with no answer. My doctors have never been concerned and it’s not halitosis or any of the reasons I’ve seen online before.

The fact that it is hereditary also signals something else to me. Are there any medical professionals who might have the answer? They don’t cause any issues, but they are annoying!

34/F/5’6”, 174 lbs, non smoker, not on any meds