AITA for getting annoyed at my boyfriend about his mum messaging him all the time
Hi for context my bf is 20 years old, we have been dating for over 2 years and this has always been something that has annoyed me. For example last year we went on a holiday together and I said to my bf if we could limit phone time just to spend the days together and make memories we can look back on, he would message his mum throughout the day which is fine but what goes too far is one day he didn't message her she messaged me for the first time asking me for photos from the day, not even how am I, if I'm enjoying the holiday, just basically can you send me photos cause she thinks my bf forgot to send her them from the day. honestly things like that have happened a lot since and my bf never sets a boundaries, he used to send her a tour of every room we stayed in and send it to her and send her almost every photo we take on holiday ect I just feel like she's always apart of our moments together.
Taking it back to what happened this weekend we went away to a cabin for 2 nights, 2 hours drive, not bad, when we got there about he mum messaged him asking if we got there okay, fair enough, but we were getting settled in and he didn't answer for an hour then she was sending him messages asking if he was alive and stuff, for extra context she has his location at all times even though he's a literal adult, so she knew we got there fine and couldn't just understand we were settling in and had to continue to message as if she's apart of the holiday. I then went on to ask my bf if he could ask her to leave us alone for the weekend so we could spend some time together cause we've both been so busy recently and have hardly saw each other, he then proceeded to call me controlling and that it's just his mum messaging him it's not that big of a deal and stuff, which I get but does he not understand I went to spend one day with him and not him and his phone? I feel that isn't a really bad request for one day I'm asking if we can just be with each other and turn our phones off and he can't even do that, he also said it was so rude to say that to his mum, he never sets boundaries with her ever, even if he just comes to my house for the night she messages him the next morning are you alive, it's really making me love him less and he just doesn't seem to see an issue in it and I'm not sure if I'm actually crazy.
For more context his mum does everything for him, changes his bed, his washing, hovers his room, empties his bin, makes him lunch everyday, puts his clothes away for him, washes all his dishes, packed his bags for holiday for him until he was 18 cause I asked him to grow up, like he doesn't seem to get that I'm becoming so unattrackted to a 20 year old that still lives like this, and when I say to him he says when we move out it'll be different but Im scared he will expect me to do everything for him and I just can't handle that. AITA?