u/Global-Possible-5700

Hint : it’s a kid’s movie

So I noticed this thing recently where I genuinely panic and freeze when someone calls me out on my bad behavior, especially if what they’re saying is true and needs to be fixed..it’ll go something like this (unintentionally)

Friend: calls me out on bad behavior on the spot (ex: making assumptions)

Me: I feeling bad and start over-explaining, that my intentions weren’t bad and it’s a misunderstanding

Friend: “does your intentions matter if your actions hurt us?”

Me : “I’m sorry”
THEN start freaking out AGIAN

I would like to seek some new perspective on how to handle situations without feeling overwhelmed with the sense to make myself innocent. I want to be able to take criticism without the NEED to over-explain everything.

For some reason it’s very easy for me to type out the apologies and I always know the right thing to say when the confrontation is a text. In real life though…