I moved to Florida in January 2025, leaving my belongings in my father’s garage in Connecticut. I wasn’t sure I’d stay, and I only bought my house last October. I told my father I’d arrange trusted friends—not strangers—to help when ready.
Now, here’s the problem. My dog died six weeks ago. Just two weeks after that loss—while I was grieving—my father told his cleaning ladies to “see if they wanted anything” from my stuff. He claims they wouldn’t go through boxes, but my son later discovered opened boxes, personal papers out, and my passport had even been in his house.
Tonight—on the eve of my birthday—my son picked up a TV from the garage, and my father asked, “What other TVs are up for grabs?”—still thinking of what to give these ladies, despite my daughter telling him they take nothing unless we supervise. At first, I thought I’d let them take a dresser—now I don’t want them taking anything. If friends don’t need it, I’ll donate.
Am I wrong for being this upset, or is my father wrong for pushing this on me while I’m still grieving—only six weeks after my loss? How do I handle this boundary from afar