u/Gloomy-Landscape-666

When is too soon to ask a guy about their dating intentions & how do you ask without sounding awkward/ without sounding like you are asking to be exclusive?

Talking and seeing this guy and it’s been great dates so far (only 2 with a 3rd mentioned) and im starting to like him, but don’t want to invest more time and energy if he’s someone who doesn’t ever want commitment. Im nit someone who casually dates - I find my feelings will get hurt and also it’s waste of time at age 28 IMO.

I get the vibe he isn’t seeking out something serious but then after our dates and him texting me through the week at times I get the feeling that maybe he is looking to actually date. He hasn’t been in a serious relationship in maybe 5yrs? Got this info from his brother who connected us. (His brother is my BFFs BF). My BFF said she thinks the only reason he hasn’t been in a relationship seriously is because of his insanely busy work stuff - he is very busy but idk.

Also I see him active on tinder a lot - but I also am on there too so that’s why im not reading much into that but food for thought IG.

I (28F) recently am single and would love to casually date as someone who well…never has been a casual dater. I find I get attached / have some anxious attachment due to expectations and getting caught up. I’ve also always been reserved and more shy until recently I have this newfound confidence after my shitty last relationship.

Any advice on how to casually date without getting disappointed/ feelings hurt?

The reason I want to casually date is because I think it would better help me figure out what I want in a long time partner and really just play the field as I’ve only had 3 relationships and maybe a handful of dates with others in my 28 years. I want a laid back summer and some fun as I just finished grad school and my friends are all busy with their partners so it’s just me myself and I.

Connected with a guy through my bff & her BF. He’s the brother of the BF. We went out twice and hit it off great, text through the week but mainly end of day after work (nbd were both busy and will go day + without chatting), he said he likes me all that jazz etc but isn’t too forward at all. We have potential plans to hang again this weekend. Anyways, I am keeping my options open as I’m recently single and this isn’t serious l so I don’t want to close doors.

Anyways, I was only using hinge because tinder has that reputation for being hookups only. However, I just downloaded tinder since I haven’t had luck with hinge at all. When on hinge, I never came across this guy (he’s not on there) but day one of tinder he pops up. Now im thinking is this a red flag that he’s only on tinder? Not sure if im letting the stereotype of tinder get to me so figured id ask. For reference, we are almost 30. I hate the idea of investing time into someone who only wants casual/ hookups but I don’t wanna ask about intentions after only two dates.