I hate my mom
It was never like this.. this all started happening when my dad passed away. So by that time my mom and I were both in a deep depression and it got to a point where we both had to go to the doctor. A few months later I made friends with people who lived near my house, in the same street, and that people also used to study in my school, so I used to see them everyday at school and after school/weeknds. My mom never like the idea of my going out with my friends to the movies or even going out to eat. I get it, I was like 14y. Never bothered me that much so… things got weird when she started getting really mad at me when I went out even just outside my door with my friends, or walk my dog in my street alone. It got to a point where she got my Facebook password and read every message (there was nothing bad there but I felt really disrespected). She would lock me in my room or in the balcony so I couldn’t leave the house to go out with my friends. She would yell and say meaningless things to me, like “you want to be like them huh? You want to be a sl*t don’t you?”. She did this for almost everyday till I was 18y, sometimes she would just yell at me bc I was 5 min late bc bus was late… she always said I was with someone doing dr*gs or something. One day I woke up in a lot of pain, confused and everything was wet in bl**d in my bed. My friend asked if I had anyone over or had s*x. I said no and that was when I found a receipt for a transfer my mom got that same day when she claimed to had no money. A few years later I got a job and started dating ( I was 20y ) so I decided to move in with my man, but decided to just move without saying a word to my mom, bc I knew what she was going to do… and I was right… I don’t know how she found where I was living but she found and started going there every single day just to see how I was doing even tho we already spoke on the phone that day. The day that made me tell her to stop with this was when she called me at 6 am I didn’t answer bc I was asleep, after a long shift (she knew about this long shift), and so I woke up at 8 am with my man saying she was outside worried about me, I looked at my phone and had like 20 missed calls. I got so worried I went outside and she was mad asf saying she was calling me for 2h and wanted to talk to me. All this to tell me my grandma wanted to see me… she also used to go to my workplace ask about me and ask if I was buying beer or if I was missing work. She also demanded to know why I missed work one day I was sick.. when I broke up with my ex, I was still going out, not with him but with my friends, i used to come home to papers on my room door saying and I quote “if you want to be a wh*re you can but not while you live here you have one week to leave my house and if you end up getting pregnant you’re going to the streets b*tch”. I was just going out on The Weeknd’s for some drinks with my own money. She would call, swnd texts, ask people to call me and demand to know where tf I was and with who. I got tired I started to put my phone on dnd and sometimes on airplane or even turn it off. I already knew what was coming the texts, calls, the silent treatment… cuts to last night where she blamed me for not sleeping and her tabaco had ended.. demanded more and was calling me a h*e for going out.
I can’t deal with this anymore. I’m just waiting for my payment so I can move out, this is honestly so frustrating and sad…
What can I do to make sure she can’t find my new apartment? What can I do to make sure she leaves me alone?
P.S. the house is also in my name, and she already talked to a lawyer to put her part in my name