u/Glum-Traffic9215

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Been together for 3 years. Lately she has been super entitled and financially irresponsible, thinking I will be able to cover for her. Mind you IRS has been taking 500 a month from me until I can pay off some debts as well. She doesn't have a job and is living off of her dad's allowance while she finishes college.

Anyway just yesterday she passively told me AFTER i offered to buy her groceries: "You used to buy me these (insert expensive hair products) but now I have to beg for it".

She said this because I said she should spend on the stuff she needs first before getting expensive hair products, which she had already purchased, leaving her with no money. Leaving me to have to buy her groceries.

Anyway after her passive quip about not buying her hair products I mentioned how many things I already bought for her that same week INCLUDING the $100 I sent her 2 weeks ago.

I dont know what to do. I confronted her about this all saying I don't want a relationship if this is how it's going to be. And she genuinely made me feel bad. Crying. Saying she won't ask for anything anymore which felt manipulative. Saying how she really does need financial help too which she does. Which I know I would love to help with but her entitlement has made me hesitant.

Idk. I feel like a fool. Any sane person would tell me to stop this relationship. It feels super manipulative at this point and she is spending irresponsibly and then forgetting the things I do.

It is a blatant waste of time and energy. It's like i'm working two jobs but the second doesn't pay me at all and leaves me emotionally and physically scarred from stress.

It's humiliating. You dress up in a suit, prep for weeks, maybe months just to make it to round 4 out of like 10, just to be told that you aren't fit for the role. They make you dance like the little monkeys we are to them.

I've been at this for 3 years. Maybe its me. Maybe i'm not the type of person they want to hire. Maybe its the way I look. Maybe it's how I talk. Maybe I'm just not skilled enough. Why should I have to fight so hard just to make a living. We aren't even compensated for our time.

All the people I've had to blow off over the years to do something career related. For nothing to come back.

Genuinely, most days I wake up not wanting to live anymore. My life is becoming this. I have become nothing but a failed career and a failed job search. This is who I have been for 3 years. All for just a chance to actually live and start my life. I live at home with my family which is a blessing. But god forbid I want to have a house, some autonomy and spending power. Why is that only reserved for a small percentage of people?