u/Glum_Entertainer_584

I (44M) have been married to the kindest, most innocent woman alive for 14 years. She’s never been mean to me. Not once. Never raised her voice, never said a harsh word. She’s always been gentle, soft, and caring — the perfect wife and mother. She’s 41 but still has this beautiful thick body with curves that I’ve worshipped every single day. I thought I was the luckiest man on earth. Turns out it was all fake. When I caught her cheating with a 22-year-old kid and confronted her, she didn’t panic or cry. She just looked me dead in the eyes with that same sweet, innocent smile she’s always given me and said: “He makes me feel young and sexy again… He gets me so good. He fucks me deeper and makes me cum so much harder than you ever have in 14 years. You don’t do a great job at all, baby. I’ve been faking it almost our whole marriage.” Those words came out of her mouth — the same gentle, never-mean-to-me woman — and they sliced me open. My sweet, innocent wife has been sneaking around letting some 22-year-old boy ruin her for me. She’s been comparing my dick, my performance, my everything to a kid half her age… and smiling while she did it. Now I can’t even look at her thick body without feeling sick. That body I loved, touched, and provided for has been getting pleased in ways I never could. Every night I lie awake wondering how many times she laid next to me after being with him, secretly disappointed in me. I feel so pathetic. So worthless. So emasculated. The woman who was supposed to be my safe place just casually destroyed me with a smile. If your “perfect, innocent” wife ever gutted you like this, how did you survive the humiliation? Because right now I don’t know if I’ll ever feel like a man again.

Hey everyone,

I’ve been going back and forth on this for a while now and I feel kind of stuck, so I thought I’d ask people who actually use these cards day to day.

I currently have the Chase Sapphire Preferred. I don’t travel a ton—maybe one or two trips a year, mostly domestic, with an occasional international trip if I can manage it. Most of my spending is pretty normal stuff like groceries, food, and everyday purchases.

Lately I’ve been wondering if I should upgrade to the Reserve, but I keep reading mixed opinions and it’s honestly stressing me out a bit because I don’t want to make a bad decision and end up paying a higher fee for benefits I won’t really use.

On paper, the Reserve sounds great with the lounge access and travel credits, but I’m not sure if that actually feels worth it in real life if you’re not constantly traveling. At the same time, I keep seeing people say the value can still outweigh the fee if you use it “right,” and that makes me second guess everything.

I guess what I’m really trying to figure out is:

If you don’t travel often, did the CSR end up feeling worth it to you?

Are the credits and Priority Pass actually easy to use, or do they end up going unused?

Or is it just smarter to stick with the Preferred long-term and not overthink it?

I’m sorry if this is a basic question—I’ve just been overthinking it a lot and don’t want to mess up a decision that’s supposed to help me financially.
Any honest experiences would really help.