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I'm almost positive my girlfriend is doing crazy things on purpose just to get a reaction out of me, but I want to make sure I'm not being paranoid or letting anxiety create a false narrative. I've noticed her, several times, doing or saying things that would make anyone upset. "I always thought about my ex when we first started dating" or "This guy at work who likes me waved at me today" or "Look at this Teddy Bear my other boyfriend bought for me."

These seem minor, I know, which is why I just assumed they were harmless jokes, but there were other times she seemed to joke about other men to make me jealous on purpose. And one time, she even admitted that she likes to make me angry, which I thought was really weird.

We broke up once because I caught her receiving money from another man and lying to me about it. It was a day after her birthday, and she texted me, "Thank you for sending me money." The problem was, I hadn't sent her any money. I told her that and then asked who sent her money to which she responded, "I was just joking because I thought if I said that, you'd send it. Now you'll get mad and make and big deal out of this and cause a fight. Please don't."

I knew she was lying, I just couldn't prove it yet. The way she received money from me was on a crypto app. I would send her the crypto, and she would cash it out immediately to her bank account. My plan was to, when I saw her in person, ask to her app. She was a step ahead of me, because that same day she tells me that she deleted the app. When I asked her why, she said she didn't want me to think she only cared about money, so she wouldn't accept any from me anymore. This is when I knew she 100% got money from another man and was lying to me about it. I told her she was a liar and cheater, and I broke up with her.

About a week later, she messages me on Instagram saying I was good to her and never mistreated her. We slowly started talking again. We decided we would meet on Friday to talk things about, but when Friday came, she said she was too tired from work and wanted to just rest at home. Then, around 9pm, she asks me what I'm doing and says that she's going to the bar with her sister and her sister's friend, and she wanted me to join them. Now, of course I was confused and upset because you would think that making up with me would be more important. And she was too tired and canceled our meeting, but now she's ready to go out. She got mad at me, but then ended up texting me an hour later telling me to come meet them at the bar. I didn't go. It's not what we agreed to.

The next day, she comes over and we talk, and get back together. She keeps talking about some bartender who liked her and was smirking and acting weird and clearly trying to make me jealous. I didn't take the bait. We had sex. Afterward, I looked her in the eye and told her I didn't believe her excuse about the money or why she deleted her app. I kept looking her in the eyes, told her to tell me the truth, and asked to see her bank account for that day she texted me about the money. I knew if she received money that day, I would see it there. She said okay at first, confidently, and I started to think I was wrong and she hadn't done it after all. Then she started looking around nervously, and I said "You got money from someone else, didn't you?" She said yes. I asked her who it was, and she said her friend named Sayeed. She showed me the guy's Instagram profile, and it definitely doesn't look like her type. Guy honestly looked gay, but still, I felt betrayed.

She claimed her Sayeed were not romantic, he was just a friend, and she was helping him send money to his bank account. You see, the guys lives in the middle east, in a country they don't have bank accounts, and he would send her money with crypto, she would cash it out, and send it to his bank account in another country. But on after her birthday, he sent her money as a gift.

Days later, when I discovered she didn't delete her crypto app after all, I made her show me the app. I saw dozens and dozens of transactions from this guy. She also showed from her bank where she was, indeed, sending the money to his bank account in another country. So I know part of that is true. I asked her how much did he actually send her as a gift. Not helping him with the money for his account, but how much was actually a gift from him to her besides the birthday money ($80), and she froze up and eventually told me to add up all the money recieved on her crypto and minus it from the amounts showing that she sent from her bank to another. My thought was, I'm asking you, why do I need to do math? She assured me, "Don't worry, he will never send me money again."

About a week later, she texts me, "I need to tell you something, but don't be mad at me. It's not my fault." She tells me that Sayeed sent her money again to send to his bank account. She showed me the text. I was confused as to why she hadn't told him she couldn't do this anymore, especially after we broke up because of it. So I made her text him back and say not to contact her anymore, and she showed me her doing this.

Safe to say this Sayeed guy has been a real sore spot in our relationship. Some days, I couldn't stop thinking about the betrayal and I would ask her more questions about it, at which point she was always extremely angry and impatient. Anyway, today, months later, she sends me a reel on TikTok where two women are talking about what women should do when they have a dream that their boyfriend has hooked up with one of their friends. She messaged me "This happened to me last night"

Now, based on the video, I thought she was saying she had a dream I hooked up with one of her friends. Then she tells me, "No, I slept with someone in my dream." I asked her who, and she says Sayeed.

Now, what are the chances she honestly didn't know that was something she should've probably kept to herself? She had to know how this would affect me, given the history. I really, really think she's doing this to mess with me, although I don't know how or why someone would be this cruel lol.

What do you guys think, honestly?

I'm almost positive my girlfriend is doing crazy things on purpose just to get a reaction out of me, but I want to make sure I'm not being paranoid or letting anxiety create a false narrative. I've noticed her, several times, doing or saying things that would make anyone upset. "I always thought about my ex when we first started dating" or "This guy at work who likes me waved at me today" or "Look at this Teddy Bear my other boyfriend bought for me."

These seem minor, I know, which is why I just assumed they were harmless jokes, but there were other times she seemed to joke about other men to make me jealous on purpose. And one time, she even admitted that she likes to make me angry, which I thought was really weird.

We broke up once because I caught her receiving money from another man and lying to me about it. It was a day after her birthday, and she texted me, "Thank you for sending me money." The problem was, I hadn't sent her any money. I told her that and then asked who sent her money to which she responded, "I was just joking because I thought if I said that, you'd send it. Now you'll get mad and make and big deal out of this and cause a fight. Please don't."

I knew she was lying, I just couldn't prove it yet. The way she received money from me was on a crypto app. I would send her the crypto, and she would cash it out immediately to her bank account. My plan was to, when I saw her in person, ask to her app. She was a step ahead of me, because that same day she tells me that she deleted the app. When I asked her why, she said she didn't want me to think she only cared about money, so she wouldn't accept any from me anymore. This is when I knew she 100% got money from another man and was lying to me about it. I told her she was a liar and cheater, and I broke up with her.

About a week later, she messages me on Instagram saying I was good to her and never mistreated her. We slowly started talking again. We decided we would meet on Friday to talk things about, but when Friday came, she said she was too tired from work and wanted to just rest at home. Then, around 9pm, she asks me what I'm doing and says that she's going to the bar with her sister and her sister's friend, and she wanted me to join them. Now, of course I was confused and upset because you would think that making up with me would be more important. And she was too tired and canceled our meeting, but now she's ready to go out. She got mad at me, but then ended up texting me an hour later telling me to come meet them at the bar. I didn't go. It's not what we agreed to.

The next day, she comes over and we talk, and get back together. She keeps talking about some bartender who liked her and was smirking and acting weird and clearly trying to make me jealous. I didn't take the bait. We had sex. Afterward, I looked her in the eye and told her I didn't believe her excuse about the money or why she deleted her app. I kept looking her in the eyes, told her to tell me the truth, and asked to see her bank account for that day she texted me about the money. I knew if she received money that day, I would see it there. She said okay at first, confidently, and I started to think I was wrong and she hadn't done it after all. Then she started looking around nervously, and I said "You got money from someone else, didn't you?" She said yes. I asked her who it was, and she said her friend named Sayeed. She showed me the guy's Instagram profile, and it definitely doesn't look like her type. Guy honestly looked gay, but still, I felt betrayed.

She claimed her Sayeed were not romantic, he was just a friend, and she was helping him send money to his bank account. You see, the guys lives in the middle east, in a country they don't have bank accounts, and he would send her money with crypto, she would cash it out, and send it to his bank account in another country. But on after her birthday, he sent her money as a gift.

Days later, when I discovered she didn't delete her crypto app after all, I made her show me the app. I saw dozens and dozens of transactions from this guy. She also showed from her bank where she was, indeed, sending the money to his bank account in another country. So I know part of that is true. I asked her how much did he actually send her as a gift. Not helping him with the money for his account, but how much was actually a gift from him to her besides the birthday money ($80), and she froze up and eventually told me to add up all the money recieved on her crypto and minus it from the amounts showing that she sent from her bank to another. My thought was, I'm asking you, why do I need to do math? She assured me, "Don't worry, he will never send me money again."

About a week later, she texts me, "I need to tell you something, but don't be mad at me. It's not my fault." She tells me that Mike sent her money again to send to his bank account. She showed me the text. I was confused as to why she hadn't told him she couldn't do this anymore, especially after we broke up because of it. So I made her text him back and say not to contact her anymore, and she showed me her doing this.

Safe to say this Sayeed guy has been a real sore spot in our relationship. Some days, I couldn't stop thinking about the betrayal and I would ask her more questions about it, at which point she was always extremely angry and impatient. Anyway, today, months later, she sends me a reel on TikTok where two women are talking about what women should do when they have a dream that their boyfriend has hooked up with one of their friends. She messaged me "This happened to me last night"

Now, based on the video, I thought she was saying she had a dream I hooked up with one of her friends. Then she tells me, "No, I slept with someone in my dream." I asked her who, and she says Sayeed.

Now, what are the chances she honestly didn't know that was something she should've probably kept to herself? She had to know how this would affect me, given the history. I really, really think she's doing this to mess with me, although I don't know how or why someone would be this cruel lol.

What do you guys think, honestly?