u/God_is_our_refuge

I’ve asked for prayers here before I thought I would ever be able to leave an abusive marriage. I got a protective order and court was delayed until the morning. I’ve been threatened, harassed, and you name it. He’s made up embarrassing lies online adding fuel to the fire. People are talking, my own family have too. But I’ve ignored it all. At times I’ve felt one more thing would drive me over the edge. I have discovered that he filed one against me This is a lot to do with his brother that enables him.

He’s going to church and I hope he does well but he’s used scripture to tell me that I’m basically a bad woman who’s going to hell because I don’t forgive and left him. I’ve asked many times why would God want me to be abused just to make you happy? Why couldn’t you stop abusing me? Where does it say in the Bible that you are allowed to continue abusing me on and on and it’s okay? He could never answer. It was his drug use hurting our child too.

But I’m worried about tomorrow. Instead of one I now have two court dates tomorrow. One will probably be put off or I’m guessing it will. Please pray for me. I’m so nervous and scared. I’ve worried myself to death. My son and I are staying in a small hot trailer with family. It’s so incredibly hard but I can’t go back now. I’m of course sad over the breakup. I thought he was my forever until he wasn’t. I believe a man should respect his wife and not talk about their marriage to others. That’s what ultimately broke our marriage apart. I don’t get over betrayal like that. It’s time I respect myself because he never did. But please pray for me and my son. I’m so scared of losing him. He’s got an army of people and the brother that enables his wrong doings to support him while I stand alone. Thank you for all of your prayers. Without coming here to ask you guys to pray for me I would have never left the abuse.

I left 16 days ago. I’d told him for a year that I was if things didn’t change. Then I discovered he’d been talking about our marriage issues to possibly the worst person he could have chose. It wasn’t even one of our worse fights that made me leave. I always thought that I would leave after he’d almost killed me. But when I pretended that I was talking to police he immediately turned on me and called his brother. That day I felt something so strong yet gently say “You were always right about not feeling safe here but now you’re really not.

There’s been some very bad things happen since then. The police have shown up at two different places and my narc had a gun pulled on him. I got an epo and he has went high tech with his smear campaign and has been posting some terrible things about me.
Me and his perverted brother had had words and it hurt my son’s feelings. He’s in business that’s nothing to him but my husband wants him involved. I’ve saw behavior from him that lets me know he never had my back.

I’m grieving for the man I fell in love with and it’s hard to accept he never existed. He chose to destroy our family for a prescription of pills that make him nod out, slur his words, and make his temper even worse. Add in the domestic violence, names, and put downs too. Sprinkle on a heavy dose of talking about me to the community. That gives you what led to this. Pride and ego are a dangerous thing. A man that has to recruit his brother to gang up on a woman is weak. I told them both they’re abusive. My own husband taunted me that day telling his brother to look at how I acted. He broke my heart and it breaks even more for this child playing in front of me.

I guess I just wanted to get some of this out. I have nobody to talk to about it. He’s got people believing that I locked my son in a cage. He caused a big scene and upset my baby so bad that day he caused a spectacle. To know that he’s telling things like that shows me how low he is. Nobody’s messaged me to genuinely check on me. My son’s teacher is scared of him and wouldn’t even come to school because he’d been showing up there. I had a neighbor that knew something was up with him. She’s a social worker and I thought she may possibly want to help. I finally told her some details and she said she’d check about finding shelter for us. She never even checked back in with me to let me know. We’re homeless and people are talking about my life falling apart like it’s all so funny or no big deal. I’m isolated, which is what he was wanting.

Nobody has stepped up to check on us. I’ve contacted these dv places for months. If you won’t stay in a shelter they won’t help you. Believe me. I have tried my heart out. You will be on your own if you get in a marriage with a narcissist. Be prepared to pull your boot straps up all alone. Guess my rant and venting is over for now. lol for those of you who read this thank you.

First I want to thank everyone who has prayed for us throughout all of this. I’ve asked for prayers for months to be able to escape a domestic violence situation. I left over two weeks ago but a lot has happened. He showed up where I’ve been staying. I felt sorry for him and let him see our son but he was only interested in baiting me in to teach me a lesson.

I’d tried being fair and reasonable but he wouldn’t hear of it. He’s more interested in hurting me, punishing me, and labeling me as unstable.

But I need prayers for protection. I need prayers for so much to be honest. lol but I need to find somewhere to live. My moms isn’t suitable for my son to stay here even short term. I’ve scrubbed and cleaned until my fingertips are sore. My husband knows it’s not the cleanest place. But I make sure he’s clean, has food, and clean sheets to sleep on.

Pray that I will find somewhere for us to live and start our new normal. We’ve had to live through so much. Some days I miss him so bad but I remind myself that when I had finally had enough he immediately recruited his brother to come and physically stand around to try and intimidate me. I refuse to back down but I also don’t trust them. I fear they may try to harm me so they can take my son.

I never thought I could say that I got out. That’s a big step in the right direction although my heart is breaking. Thank you for your prayers. God bless you all.

So I left my abusive husband two weeks ago after he was getting in my face and shoving me backwards with his chest. He’s bullied me and progressively treated me worse over the seven years we were together. The neighbors heard it that day and he went outside as he always did so they could hear him cussing and yelling.

These people have never one time asked if I was okay. They’ve never called the police. But they will however come out so they can get a better view and hear me being called names. It’s made me despise them more and more over time. Especially the mother. She draws checks off of disabled people for profit. I could feel that she hate the way she’d stare sometimes which it was mutual bc i would say something or die. I couldn’t even plant a flower or clean up outside for a few minutes before I could feel I was being watched.

Since I left she has sent me friend requests. Not just a couple. More like 30. If not her it’s her very weird son doing it. One day she sent 15 or more within 5 minutes. My question is what would you do? Block her, say something smart, bawl her out? I’ve thought of so many things but for what these people witnessed and enjoyed it I want to be a little petty. lol

Please be kind. I’m going through a lot and so is my son. 🥺

I could really use some prayers to lift mine and my son’s spirits today. Also that we can find a safe home soon. He acted up yesterday and I knew it was because of what all that happened. I comforted him and told him he could always talk to me. My heart breaks for him. I’m so sad that his father couldn’t get it together for us to remain a family. He would rather pretend nothing was wrong and that abuse is just the way men are. I couldn’t imagine having that mindset. I pray for all victims of abuse as well. It’s a difficult life.

I have asked for prayers for months now trying to leave an abusive marriage. I finally left last week and I’ve felt a little more peace at times but things have escalated and there’s no bargaining with a man who is accustomed to bullying and controlling.

He’s threatening me through voicemails and messages. I tried to get our son to talk to him on the phone but he wouldn’t. I’ve not said anything bad about him but he’s constantly blaming me for it. I’ve been in contact with the dv hotline and they won’t help me unless I go to a women’s shelter. I was led to believe that there were options for hotel stays and rapid housing. But was denied. I don’t know if they don’t believe me or what but I think I need a different plan but I don’t know where else to reach out to for help.

He showed up to my mom’s this morning and it was terrifying. If not for my step dad he would’ve made us go. He traumatized our little one. The police had to come and make him leave. He’s friends with the officers sister and has tried using triangulation against me. He has completely turned on me because I dared to leave him taking my son. It’s hard to stay here because it’s cramped and hot. There’s no privacy and I’m so scared he’s going to come back.

Just pray for our safety and for a way for me to make a way to provide a home that’s comfortable and stable for us soon. Thank you and God bless you all.