u/God_is_our_refuge

I was told to post here to reach more people. I have posted here before and I’ve been traveling a long hard road. Part of my goal was to escape an abusive marriage. I thought I couldn’t get away but I did.

He’s glad that we’re gone and escaped responsibility by getting so high he stays passed out for a couple weeks then he turns into an absolute devil.

It’s that time again and he knows I’m not in good health. He is hateful and mean when he takes those pills. I won’t have him being abusive to my five year old. I’ve seen the coldness in his eyes. We’ve argued a lot about disciplining our son. I won’t have him treating him bad because he’s high or he’s mean from not having any left.

Tonight he sent me some of the worst messages that I’ve ever seen. He called me a demon. Said he knew God was going to strike me down and he hoped it would be fast so I’d die and our son would have a normal life. He said he wouldn’t come see me on my deathbed or my service. That when I went to hell he hoped I remembered what he told me. He keeps saying I committed blasphemy because I don’t want anything to do with his brother. He’s touched me inappropriately before and said some nasty things that made me uncomfortable. He stood guard while my husband pulled our son crying from the car seat in my car. The mean things they’ve done to me lately I don’t feel safe around them. He says I’m going to hell for not forgiving.

He’s been physically abusive, emotionally, mentally, and anyway possible. Our air conditioning tore up last week and I tried contacting him for four days. I thought he might keep our son but I soon realized he was high. He ignored every message about our son with no ac. He’d say he loved us and I believe pass right back out. He acted as if I didn’t say anything about it.

He scares me and I have nowhere to go. Even with an epo I can’t get any help through the system. You would not believe the times I’ve tried and even discarded by an advocate the same day she reach out. I’m renting from a relative and she is driving me crazy being controlling. I broke down crying tonight when I got back and saw she had dumped my rain water out. I pay my rent and bills but I can’t see any peace. I do not know where to turn and my son isn’t comfortable here either. He tries to be but we need out of here. Please please I’m begging for your prayers. I want to thank you for reading this. Sorry it’s so long. God bless you all.

My husband is relentless in keeping my nervous system dis regulated. When he’s high he ignores us. I’ve been moved out for months but he keeps my face red hot. It’s absolutely evil the way he twists reality. I catch myself constantly explaining things and I have to stop. The trauma bond is strong.

Pray that I can get away and ignore messages from him. The constant threats are doing me in. I try so hard to be a good mother but the day to day names he calls me, the threats, it’s just not me being hurt b

Please pray for the trauma bond to be broken. Pray for my little guy. God bless

I just got released from the hospital after staying three nights. It’s different things going on and I’m so scared. A big part of it is prolonged stress from my spouse. I left him months ago but he threatens or lies to draw me back in.

Please pray for my son and I to find a peaceful secure home that nobody can decide we have to leave. I’ve tried everything with these agencies and I never got any help. The place I’m renting is not peaceful with my cousin as the landlord. She’s controlling and I’ve worked so hard to make it homey for my son. Even he is uncomfortable here now. I was kinda forced into this.

Pray that I find a job that can keep us afloat. My unemployment ran out and I have 29 dollars of it left. I’ve bought all of our sons school supplies. My spouse has stolen everything we had to get money. Most of the things were designated as belonging to our son. He mocks, he minimizes, and loses his temper when he gets caught.

He loves to see me hurt and leaves me in sorrow. I see the pattern now. Pray for clarity, peace, and strength. I’m so hurt tonight and idk where to turn but to God. I wish I didn’t worry so much. I want to thank anyone that took the time to pray for us. May God bless you all.

If not for your prayers reaching God I’d still be in the same situation. I left my spouse in April. I can now file for divorce if I want to. But my heart still can’t do it.

I feel like I’m not ready. He still takes little accountability and I can’t believe anything he says. If he told me the truth I’d never know it. Please pray that whatever my decision will be that it will be the best one. I need comfort. I just miss my family. Thank you

I’m sitting here “ugly crying” I have been for two hours. My heart is broken. But I know these kind of cries are the ones that are getting me through this.

I let him keep our son and I was supposed to go and take him some juice. 30 minutes prior to this my husband said for so many thousands he would leave me alone. Just when I think he’s shattered my heart enough he does even more. I’ve been threatened in any way you can imagine.

Seeing my belongings in the rain for the third or fourth time today just hurt. I know he’s doing it on purpose. If I wrote everything he’s done and said to me out it would take all night. But I have nobody to talk to about this. At first I was scared bc I’ve never been on my own and I have no job. My unemployment is ending soon. But I left him and he has punished me in any way he can for it. I’ve had some of the worst lies posted about me. He even said I had my child locked in a cage and people believed it. I wouldn’t look at the posts but I had people tell me even when I said it’s just noise please don’t tell me bc I have enough on my shoulders.

But damn this hurts. When he gets someone else I will be broken again. I wish I didn’t love him. But he’s a monster and he’s so cruel. I can’t wait until this is over. The hurting anyway.

Since leaving an abusive marriage there been a lot of ups and downs. He’s been scary an volatile. He’s also been apologetic although I knew not to trust it. I’ve let him see his son and I’ve been hauling my belongings to the house I’m renting.

He started an argument the day we were to go to church together and said he quit church and it’s all my fault. He cussed and threw a fit for hours on end. He took my underwear and used them to scrub the floors. I later found them. While he was scrubbing the floors he would yell he was praying to Satan. He gets up yesterday and says he’s going to church. He never asked me to go. Never invited me at all but is quick again to tell me that I’m going to hell. That God told him he was going to strike me down.

I gave him a chance to be nice and that’s the result. Please pray we can safely get out of here today and go to our own church. I need some peace and to know I’m not crazy and to blame here.

I’ve asked for prayers here before I thought I would ever be able to leave an abusive marriage. I got a protective order and court was delayed until the morning. I’ve been threatened, harassed, and you name it. He’s made up embarrassing lies online adding fuel to the fire. People are talking, my own family have too. But I’ve ignored it all. At times I’ve felt one more thing would drive me over the edge. I have discovered that he filed one against me This is a lot to do with his brother that enables him.

He’s going to church and I hope he does well but he’s used scripture to tell me that I’m basically a bad woman who’s going to hell because I don’t forgive and left him. I’ve asked many times why would God want me to be abused just to make you happy? Why couldn’t you stop abusing me? Where does it say in the Bible that you are allowed to continue abusing me on and on and it’s okay? He could never answer. It was his drug use hurting our child too.

But I’m worried about tomorrow. Instead of one I now have two court dates tomorrow. One will probably be put off or I’m guessing it will. Please pray for me. I’m so nervous and scared. I’ve worried myself to death. My son and I are staying in a small hot trailer with family. It’s so incredibly hard but I can’t go back now. I’m of course sad over the breakup. I thought he was my forever until he wasn’t. I believe a man should respect his wife and not talk about their marriage to others. That’s what ultimately broke our marriage apart. I don’t get over betrayal like that. It’s time I respect myself because he never did. But please pray for me and my son. I’m so scared of losing him. He’s got an army of people and the brother that enables his wrong doings to support him while I stand alone. Thank you for all of your prayers. Without coming here to ask you guys to pray for me I would have never left the abuse.

I left 16 days ago. I’d told him for a year that I was if things didn’t change. Then I discovered he’d been talking about our marriage issues to possibly the worst person he could have chose. It wasn’t even one of our worse fights that made me leave. I always thought that I would leave after he’d almost killed me. But when I pretended that I was talking to police he immediately turned on me and called his brother. That day I felt something so strong yet gently say “You were always right about not feeling safe here but now you’re really not.

There’s been some very bad things happen since then. The police have shown up at two different places and my narc had a gun pulled on him. I got an epo and he has went high tech with his smear campaign and has been posting some terrible things about me.
Me and his perverted brother had had words and it hurt my son’s feelings. He’s in business that’s nothing to him but my husband wants him involved. I’ve saw behavior from him that lets me know he never had my back.

I’m grieving for the man I fell in love with and it’s hard to accept he never existed. He chose to destroy our family for a prescription of pills that make him nod out, slur his words, and make his temper even worse. Add in the domestic violence, names, and put downs too. Sprinkle on a heavy dose of talking about me to the community. That gives you what led to this. Pride and ego are a dangerous thing. A man that has to recruit his brother to gang up on a woman is weak. I told them both they’re abusive. My own husband taunted me that day telling his brother to look at how I acted. He broke my heart and it breaks even more for this child playing in front of me.

I guess I just wanted to get some of this out. I have nobody to talk to about it. He’s got people believing that I locked my son in a cage. He caused a big scene and upset my baby so bad that day he caused a spectacle. To know that he’s telling things like that shows me how low he is. Nobody’s messaged me to genuinely check on me. My son’s teacher is scared of him and wouldn’t even come to school because he’d been showing up there. I had a neighbor that knew something was up with him. She’s a social worker and I thought she may possibly want to help. I finally told her some details and she said she’d check about finding shelter for us. She never even checked back in with me to let me know. We’re homeless and people are talking about my life falling apart like it’s all so funny or no big deal. I’m isolated, which is what he was wanting.

Nobody has stepped up to check on us. I’ve contacted these dv places for months. If you won’t stay in a shelter they won’t help you. Believe me. I have tried my heart out. You will be on your own if you get in a marriage with a narcissist. Be prepared to pull your boot straps up all alone. Guess my rant and venting is over for now. lol for those of you who read this thank you.

First I want to thank everyone who has prayed for us throughout all of this. I’ve asked for prayers for months to be able to escape a domestic violence situation. I left over two weeks ago but a lot has happened. He showed up where I’ve been staying. I felt sorry for him and let him see our son but he was only interested in baiting me in to teach me a lesson.

I’d tried being fair and reasonable but he wouldn’t hear of it. He’s more interested in hurting me, punishing me, and labeling me as unstable.

But I need prayers for protection. I need prayers for so much to be honest. lol but I need to find somewhere to live. My moms isn’t suitable for my son to stay here even short term. I’ve scrubbed and cleaned until my fingertips are sore. My husband knows it’s not the cleanest place. But I make sure he’s clean, has food, and clean sheets to sleep on.

Pray that I will find somewhere for us to live and start our new normal. We’ve had to live through so much. Some days I miss him so bad but I remind myself that when I had finally had enough he immediately recruited his brother to come and physically stand around to try and intimidate me. I refuse to back down but I also don’t trust them. I fear they may try to harm me so they can take my son.

I never thought I could say that I got out. That’s a big step in the right direction although my heart is breaking. Thank you for your prayers. God bless you all.

So I left my abusive husband two weeks ago after he was getting in my face and shoving me backwards with his chest. He’s bullied me and progressively treated me worse over the seven years we were together. The neighbors heard it that day and he went outside as he always did so they could hear him cussing and yelling.

These people have never one time asked if I was okay. They’ve never called the police. But they will however come out so they can get a better view and hear me being called names. It’s made me despise them more and more over time. Especially the mother. She draws checks off of disabled people for profit. I could feel that she hate the way she’d stare sometimes which it was mutual bc i would say something or die. I couldn’t even plant a flower or clean up outside for a few minutes before I could feel I was being watched.

Since I left she has sent me friend requests. Not just a couple. More like 30. If not her it’s her very weird son doing it. One day she sent 15 or more within 5 minutes. My question is what would you do? Block her, say something smart, bawl her out? I’ve thought of so many things but for what these people witnessed and enjoyed it I want to be a little petty. lol

Please be kind. I’m going through a lot and so is my son. 🥺

I could really use some prayers to lift mine and my son’s spirits today. Also that we can find a safe home soon. He acted up yesterday and I knew it was because of what all that happened. I comforted him and told him he could always talk to me. My heart breaks for him. I’m so sad that his father couldn’t get it together for us to remain a family. He would rather pretend nothing was wrong and that abuse is just the way men are. I couldn’t imagine having that mindset. I pray for all victims of abuse as well. It’s a difficult life.

I have asked for prayers for months now trying to leave an abusive marriage. I finally left last week and I’ve felt a little more peace at times but things have escalated and there’s no bargaining with a man who is accustomed to bullying and controlling.

He’s threatening me through voicemails and messages. I tried to get our son to talk to him on the phone but he wouldn’t. I’ve not said anything bad about him but he’s constantly blaming me for it. I’ve been in contact with the dv hotline and they won’t help me unless I go to a women’s shelter. I was led to believe that there were options for hotel stays and rapid housing. But was denied. I don’t know if they don’t believe me or what but I think I need a different plan but I don’t know where else to reach out to for help.

He showed up to my mom’s this morning and it was terrifying. If not for my step dad he would’ve made us go. He traumatized our little one. The police had to come and make him leave. He’s friends with the officers sister and has tried using triangulation against me. He has completely turned on me because I dared to leave him taking my son. It’s hard to stay here because it’s cramped and hot. There’s no privacy and I’m so scared he’s going to come back.

Just pray for our safety and for a way for me to make a way to provide a home that’s comfortable and stable for us soon. Thank you and God bless you all.