u/Gold-Jelly-8857

I’m sat in my car with tears in my eyes right now 30 mins after drop off because we were 40 seconds behind the class door closing & then I had to take her round to the naughty kids entrance aka school office. Feel like i’m failing my daughter when (even with distractions away & felt like was on task & making good time) she is late for school.
I’ve been so worried this would happen. First time so far this year. I know there will be more. I don’t want there to be. I’m late to everything, always have been, i don’t know what happens. Time just disappears & all of a sudden i’ll need to be rushing & getting stressed.
I sleep through alarms too - so getting up in the morning is the first hurdle. I’m using Alarmy with the end of the world ringtone & maths questions to turn it off (although the maths questions too simple, genuinely can do in my sleep). That’s been mostly successful so far this term. After a week my brain will just ignore the alarm noise it’s used to. So switching that up often. Failing that, kids or their dad wake me up before he goes to work.
I have an alarm set 20 minutes before we need to leave the house for school - by that time we are usually dressed fed etc ready to go. So what am i doing wrong? 😑 20 minutes for toilet, shoes & coats on is … enough (surely ?!!)
Worth noting my daughter (not diagnosed or seeking) has very similar traits to me, she gets distracted easily, often forgets her task/instruction seconds into it ie getting her shoes on she will end up rolling around on the floor or running off to do something else.

I’ve tried all of the usual obvious methods (not my first rodeo with school). Is there anything you can suggest to try to prevent this happening again (or at least too often)?

Recently diagnosed with combined ADHD & a separate assessment confirmed Autism too.
I don’t really even understand what they are—so will be educating myself.
Then what? What happens now? How do i be a better person? Or is this just how it is & the labels give me an excuse for being the way i am? Should I be reaching out for medication?