u/GolfLegitimate3421

My dad died in early 2024 and he left me his car. It wasn't in the will as such, he just said it to me a few times in the last year and my mom and my brother both heard him say it, so when it came to it nobody argued and the title went into my name. It's a 2019 Civic, nothing special, but he bought it new and he was very particular about it and it still has the little air freshener thing he liked in the glovebox. About 4 months after the funeral my brother's car finally died on him and he asked if he could borrow Dad's until he figured something out. I said yes without really thinking about it because I had my own car and it was just sitting on my mom's driveway making everybody sad every time they walked past it.

That was over 2 years ago. He has it insured in his own name now, he's the only one who drives it, and last Christmas he referred to it as "my car" in front of everyone and nobody blinked.

To be fair to him he has looked after it. New tires last spring, he does the servicing on time, he's put maybe 1,200 into it over the 2 years and he's never once asked me to chip in for any of that.

Here's where I'm at. My partner and I are trying to buy and we're about 6 grand short of where we need to be, and the Civic is worth roughly 9. I've been going around in circles about it for weeks.

If I tell him I'm selling it I know exactly what happens. He'll say he's been maintaining it, my mom will get upset about Dad's car going to a stranger, and my aunt will find out within the hour. He also genuinely cannot afford to replace it right now, he's not in a great spot financially, and I know that.

I haven't said anything to anyone yet. WIBTA?

i am 23f and i've been renting my apartment for about two years now. its a small building, maybe 20 units, and for the most part its been fine. quiet area, decent neighbors, nothing to complain about really.

four months ago the unit above me got a new tenant and since then it has been nonstop noise. not just normal living sounds i'm talking bass heavy music at 1am, what sounds like furniture being dragged across the floor at random hours, loud arguments, the whole thing. it's been affecting my sleep and honestly my mental health.

i went to my landlord about it the first week. he said he'd talk to them. nothing changed. i went again the next week. he said he'd handle it. nothing changed. this has been going on every single week for four months. sometimes he says he'll send a warning letter, sometimes he says he's already spoken to them, sometimes he just nods and says he understands. nothing ever actually happens.

and look i get that being a landlord is a lot and he has other tenants and other problems. i'm not trying to be his main focus. but when i'm coming to you every week about the same issue and you keep telling me you'll deal with it and nothing changes that starts to feel like you just don't care.

the thing is i know for a fact he handles other complaints quickly. my neighbor two doors down told me she complained about a parking issue once and it was sorted within days. another tenant had a maintenance issue and he was over there the next morning. so it's not like he's slow with everyone. it's just me apparently.

last week i ran into him in the hallway and he asked how everything was going like nothing was wrong. i told him honestly that i felt disrespected because i've been raising the same issue for months and nothing has been done. i said it calmly and i wasn't rude about it.

he looked at me like i just slapped him and just walked away without saying anything. which was weird.

then yesterday i get a text from him saying that i need to grow up and learn that the world doesn't revolve around me and that he has bigger problems than my noise complaint and that if i don't like it i can find somewhere else to live.

i screenshot everything and sent it to a friend who told me to report it. i called the rental authority in my area and they said they'd look into it. i also told a few neighbors what happened and turns out a couple of them have had similar experiences with him dismissing complaints from certain tenants.

now i'm second guessing myself because maybe i was too persistent and maybe i should've just dealt with it myself or talked to the neighbor directly instead of going through him every time. i did try knocking on the upstairs door once early on but nobody answered and i didn't try again because i'm not great with confrontation.

but also i pay rent every month on time and i don't think asking for a basic quality of life thing is too much. i just wanted it handled and he never handled it.

am i in the wrong?