u/Good_Newt_3709

Gay story. The gist of the story is that I started talking to a guy on Tinder, and we clicked pretty quickly. It's very rare for me to find someone I have both chemistry with and genuinely enjoy talking to. I suggested meeting up, and he said yes almost immediately.

I took him out for dinner, and then we went for a walk. I started liking him more and more, and I could actually imagine something serious developing between us. He talked about his ex was having an avoidant attachment style and how difficult dating is because everyone plays hard to get. We had very similar experiences, so we basically kept the conversation going constantly.

When I was walking him home, I mentioned that I was going to stop by my apartment because his bus stop was practically right there. I was thirsty, and of course I told him he was welcome to come up if he wanted. At first he seemed fine with it, but then he started questioning me, asking if this was supposed to be just a hookup. I told him that wasn't what I had in mind at all and that he didn't have to come upstairs if he didn't want to. But he kept insisting on that point and then barely spoke to me for about twenty minutes.

Eventually he came up, relaxed a bit, and said that I had misunderstood something. Fine.

Once we got to my place, things got pretty intimate. We didn't have sex, but he said he'd be open to taking things further physically. I genuinely felt — and he said it countless times — that he had a great time. He even told me I was a 9 out of 10 for him.

We were already talking about seeing each other again, and I asked him to text me when he got home. That evening I waited for a message, but nothing came. I figured he had fallen asleep and would text in the morning.

Instead, I woke up to find that he had blocked me everywhere.

Obviously everyone has the right to change their mind, and I completely respect that. What hurts a little is the way he handled it, especially considering that he was the one talking about the importance of communication.

Has anything similar ever happened to you?

I'm sure I have plenty of flaws myself, but I don't think anything happened that couldn't have been talked through. Especially in his case, I would have been open to hearing any concerns and making changes on my side if necessary.

Meleg téma. Sztori lényege annyi, hogy elkezdtem beszélgetni egy sráccal Tinderen, akivel elég gyorsan megtaláltuk a közös hangot. Nagyon ritka nálam, h olyan embert találok, akivel megvan a kémia és a beszélgetés is tök jól megy. Felajánlottam egy talit, amire elég gyorsan igent is mondott. Meghívtam kajálni, aztán sétáltunk egyet. Egyre jobban megtetszett, el tudtam volna képzelni, hogy valami komolyabbat is tervezzünk. Beszélt elkerülő kötődésről meg hogy nehéz az ismerkedés, mert mindenki játsza az elérhetetlent. Kb hasonló tapasztalataink voltak, ezért gyakorlatilag folyamatosan fenntartottuk a beszélgetést. Mikor hazafelé kísértem, mondtam neki, h felugranék a lakásomba, mert kb ott szállt fel a buszra. Szomjas voltam, nyilván mondtam, hogy jöjjön fel, ha szeretne. Először okés volt neki, utána meg számonkért, hogy ez most akkor egy alkalmi lesz? Mondom én ilyet nem terveztem, nem muszáj feljönnie. De csak ezt hajtotta, aztán kb 20 percig hozzám sem szólt. Végül feljött, kicsit megnyhült, szerinte én félreélrtettem valamit. Hát, jó. Nálam aztán eléggé összemelegedtünk, nem feküdtünk le, de felajánlotta, h benne lenne intimebb dolgokban is. Én úgy éreztem, meg számtalanszor mondta is, h nagyon jól érezte magát, meg h neki 10/9 vagyok. Terveztük is a következő talit, mondtam, hogy írjon, ha hazaért. Este vártam, de nem írt, gondoltam elaludt, majd reggel. Reggel arra keltem, hogy mindenhonnan letiltott. Nyilván mindenkinek joga van meggondolni magát, szerintem ez tök rendben van, csak ez a megoldás egy picit rosszul esik, miközben ő beszélt a kommunikáció fontosságáról. Veletek történt már hasonló? Tele vagyok hibával én is, de nem gondolom, hogy olyan történt volna, amit ne lehetne megbeszélni, főleg vele kapcsolatban, nyitott lettem volna bármilyen változtatásra magam szempontjából.