u/Goose_wannabe_femboy

I just want to preface this post by saying I love this cat, if anything were to happen to her it’d feel like losing a child. I’m extremely happy to have her around and have her sister to keep her company when I can’t.

I have one major problem with her I’ve had ever since she’s been extremely young. She’s so loud. Like hurts your ears sometimes loud, and on top of that she’s incredibly vocal and is an attention seeker through and through. As I started to write this post she was pushing her head into my hands because I decided to take my hands away from her to type this. This isn’t just because I’m ignoring her or anything, I constantly pet her and try to talk to her and pay her all kinds of attention when she’s close, every bit of free time I have I try to spend as close to her as possible, because I know if I don’t she’ll start screaming because I’m not in her line of sight.

She brings toys around and meows to play but never responds to me actually trying to play with her, gets as in my face as she can, and is scream meowing the entire time. She’s so loud I’ve had people hear her from other rooms while I’m calling them because she started meowing. Anytime I do something that doesn’t include her, she starts screaming and running to find me and if I don’t immediately start petting her she just constantly meows, sometimes she starts to do things she knows I don’t like her doing, until I give in. It’s tiring and she’s acted like this since I can remember.

I’ve tried ignoring her when she meows too loud, I’ve tried moving her around physically, I’ve tried giving her more things to nourish herself with, she just acts the same. I’m tired and I want to be able to have some time to myself sometimes. Please help

I’ve suffered with insomnia pretty much my whole life as I get it from both of my parents. I’m okay with struggling to sleep, and sleeping in here and there, because that’s kind of what I’ve just gotten used to. Lately even when trying to calm down in bed at times most people without insomnia do it sometimes takes me literal hours of focusing on nothing but trying. I’ve tried different sleep medications in the past, both over the counter and prescribed, but if I take any of it for more than about 3 days to a week in a row I have to stop taking it for a bit or it won’t work on me anymore.

I’ve tried getting back into a schedule as I graduated a little over a year ago at this point and the schedule somewhat helped. After multiple weeks of attempting to get into an actual schedule, even with a part time job while I figure out life, it won’t work, the first couple nights are alright but then I either only get a couple hours waking up extremely early or I go to sleep really late and wake up way to late for it to be healthy. When I go to sleep super late I end up sleeping over 12 hours sometimes and even with an alarm that my body just turns off and forces me to sleep through. If I go to sleep really early I wake up at 2 am, energized and unable to go back to sleep.

I’ve tried having background noise, but that in fact just makes it worse. With the most basic of basic background noise I still can’t go to sleep easily. I also have a problem of thinking a lot before bed which I’m sure has to do with the insomnia and I almost am never able to clear my head even when there’s something actually going on. I have a history of depression and anxiety but I’m not sure if that’s what it is or if I’m just doomed to sleep poorly.

I can’t seem to get good sleep when most people are supposed to be asleep and because of this it’s strained my relationships, given me less free time, and given me less time to do to think about what I want for my life. It’s honestly just stressed me out more and I really need help but I don’t know if I can afford professional help. Please someone give me some advice