u/GotYourSoul

So i’m 36 weeks today, and i switched to a new provider so i can deliver closer to home, rather than over an hour away. we did a growth scan then met, she said the baby is measuring in the 87th percentile, and her abdomen is in the 97th, putting her at risk for shoulder dystocia if she gets much bigger. which is confusing cause 4 weeks ago everything was around the 60th percentile.

i’ve also had 3 episodes of high blood pressure that landed me in the maternal ER through out pregnancy. nothing that stays elevated for days, and some days i’m even low blood pressure wise. my urine proteins have been fine.

but these two factors are making this doctor lean towards induction, or c-section if i’d prefer that, next week. she said even if we rescan and her growth is more normal and consistent, she’d like to induce because of the blood pressure episodes alone.

i’m devastated. i’m terrified of induction, im terrified of going through induction and needing a c-section anyway. i’ll probably opt for a c-section because of that. i wanted to experience naturally going into labor so bad.

any words of wisdom, positive induction or elective c-section experiences are welcomed.

I’m due in a month, and my parents are asking about visiting baby in the hospital & staying to help. But right now, i’m fully wanting just my partner, myself, and my doula at the hospital, and no visitors for the first 24 hours so i can heal and bond with my baby. i also want my first night home with her to be just us so we can adjust as a family.

but my dad is insistent on being at the hospital while i’m in labor because “that’s just what you do!” and “we’re here to see the baby not you” (don’t even get me started on that).

my mom wants to come stay and help the first few nights, but i’m hoping to EBF, and told her i would prefer her to stay and help when my partner has to go back to work on long shifts after the first month. she’s adamant that i’ll need the most help the first few nights.

am i being ridiculous for not wanting this?? will i regret not taking help the first few days? i want them to meet her as soon as they can obviously, but i don’t want to feel like im hosting while so freshly postpartum. i just want to get settled in a routine with my baby before everyone gets involved.

I’m due in a month, and my parents are asking about visiting baby in the hospital & staying to help. But right now, i’m fully wanting just my partner, myself, and my doula at the hospital, and no visitors for the first 24 hours so i can heal and bond with my baby. i also want my first night home with her to be just us so we can adjust as a family.

but my dad is insistent on being at the hospital while i’m in labor because “that’s just what you do!” and “we’re here to see the baby not you” (don’t even get me started on that).

my mom wants to come stay and help the first few nights, but i’m hoping to EBF, and told her i would prefer her to stay and help when my partner has to go back to work on long shifts after the first month. she’s adamant that i’ll need the most help the first few nights.

am i being ridiculous for not wanting this?? will i regret not taking help the first few days? i want them to meet her as soon as they can obviously, but i don’t want to feel like im hosting while so freshly postpartum. i just want to get settled in a routine with my baby before everyone gets involved.