u/Graayworm

Coaching 4th grade boys and its most of their first time playing tackle. It’s going pretty good but I have this one dad who’s pretty hands off except for once every practice or two he’ll yell to his boy something like “I’m going to get my effort one way or another” then after practice he’ll run the boy till he’s almost crying.

Granted the boy doesn’t give top tier effort all the time. But he’s not the worst either. He’s got some natural talent and he’s not scared of contact. From what I understand the boy is a pretty good baseball / basketball player so I guess expectations are high. But it just doesn’t sit right. I’m worried the boy won’t want to play again. But I’m not sure it’s my place to say anything to the dad.

What would you do?

I am in awe of how cool it was down there today. Pro skateboarders and BMX riders from all over the world out there competing at a high level. I would love for the city walk to host more events like this in the future.

If you don’t have anything to do tomorrow I highly recommend checking it out. Birmingham has something truly special with that skatepark.

I was at company A for 5 years. Company B for 3 years before that. Company A was a mature tech org with set processes where things moved kind of slow but things the tech was very stable. No outages, no fires to put out while on call, very silo’d teams. Everyone had deep knowledge about their thing but only surface level knowledge about most other things. The team was all 9-10+ YOE and very competent. No one ever needed hand holding and everyone was very autonomous.

BUT AI and offshoring layoffs were abound. No one’s job was safe. RTO was rolling out and fringe benefits getting cut one after another. My manager and skip were both laid off and replaced in the past year. There was very little respect from leadership to ICs. Also, there was an off shore team getting up to speed on our areas of ownership.

So I decided to make a lateral move (both pay and title). So far, the new company seems to be much better as far as leadership and culture and respect for employees. But now I see how different it is compared to what has been normal for me over the last 5 years. The processes are all over the place and not well documented. Deploys are still manually managed. I have a lot less in common with the new team. The company is smaller so the benefits are not as good and healthcare is more expensive.

It is basically more chaotic but a mentally safer place to be.

Any tips on how to adjust to a new role after years?

You could spend $1000 per day for 2739 years and 265 days.

Had my clearance interview recently and it is so uncomfortable. I am pretty much squeaky clean but to be probed about my character and past is not fun when the stakes feel so high. I told the 100% truth about everything and there’s not a ton of complexity with mine so hopefully it’ll be smooth.

After how uncomfortable I was in that interview, I’m really not looking forward to the poly.

Anyone have any experiences to share or timelines after the interview with the investigator?