u/GraceJoans

I am at a loss for how to respond to the person i've been seeing/in an increasingly precarious situationship with for five months disappearing for 5 days only to re emerge with a silly excuse (preparing for a trip). you don't need 5 days to pack a suitcase, and one of those days I know he was on a date (we're "casual" 🙄). after texting everyday for five months, this absence was jarring and deeply upsetting. spent a whole day in bed crying because I was in shock by the prospect of being ghosted for no reason other than, perhaps, he's choosing this other person. time will tell.

I want to respond. It's been 2 days for me. I am not up for an argument or confrontation in this text because a more serious convo would be better when we are face to face. I want to snark, I want to let it be know that it felt like a ghosting. I also want to give up and never talk to him again. my anger right now at him and his flippant excuse is mixed with a desire for things to go back to how they were. a bit paralyzed as to what to do next (and don't want to ghost back). honestly can't tell if he's just oblivious and time-blind or actually trying to be an asshole.

what did you do when the ghoster came back?

I have finally found the courage to end my situationship today. I have been involved with a younger man for a few months and while it has been fine, feelings have entered the equation and it seems
he is getting more and more involved with this other woman. we had a conversation about transparency a few weeks ago and there's been little improvement in how we communicate and how much we see each other. meanwhile he spent the weekend with this other woman, like I wouldn't figure it out. i'm emotionally tired and want to respect myself a little more. I already have a complex about being older than this person and to have it be so obvious that he's seeing someone else who is younger, thinner, and prettier than me makes me sick. these feelings will never go away, so best to walk away now. I am a good person who is loved by others and I need to love myself more than to be strung along any longer by someone who will never care for me the way I care for him or that I deserve to be cared for. it will suck to say goodbye but it's time. thanks for listening.