u/Grand-Shift-4721

AIO for crying and begging my parents not to buy more and treat birds as pets

(A little warning, my English isn't exactly the best. I'm not from a native English speaking country)

I (19F) don't plan on getting pets. I don't have a job and is solely focusing on college right now. I currently live in a boarding house near my university and could only visit my parents during weekends or holidays if I decided to that is. One day, I went home only to find they had bought three birds: two lovebirds and one orange-headed thrush. They put them in a small living space, a long cage with a round top. I was heartbroken, beg them to buy another cage for them but got denied the first week. My dad even said that birds don't have common sense and intellect. They can't take revenge on us.

Flash forward, the second week where I came back home. I had mentioned it to my mom about how they needed a bigger cage. She somewhat laughs, at least from what I interpret. She brought my suggestion to my dad but neither of them seemed to treat it seriously, even as I offer to save up my money to buy their cage. I frowned the whole car ride and they only tell me to smile. After I told them what had made me irritated, they told me I'm overreacting. Called my way of thinking "scary" (since Western views are often considered bad in my country) and that I sound like one of those vegans. They hammered it in by calling me "not normal." My dad brought the "birds are dumb" arguements again and said I couldn't possibly understand what birds feel. They told me I have a negative view on people and too idealistic. I can't handle it, so I cried. Not knowing how to express my opinion.

Third week, my dad had bought a larger cage for the lovebirds. I was thrilled. However that excitement dies shortly after he mentioned buying another lovebirds, maybe four or more. I'm not well versed on bird care but I don't think buying more inside of one cage would be the greatest idea. I also plan to let them roam in my room after I bird proof everything I could, researching safe materials for them. More birds wouldn't be ideal. I assumed that was it, that he was only joking. He asked me if I could help him went out to buy crickets for the orange-headed thrush. I agreed. We went there and the place was awful, honestly, I had brace myself because most bird stores are like this. The owner smoked inside despite the birds probably having sensitive breathing. I had thought we're only buying crickets but he came back with another bird.

Why? Because to him, it's fun. It's fun buying without thinking about their cages, their well beings. To them, buying foods and drinks are enough. I had horrible experience with our pets mistreated in the past, I felt awful for these birds. I went and cried again. Not responding to his words. Am I overreacting? I kept seeing more people buying pets without care. For their "entertainment". Especially little creatures. I'm not even sure how to convince them, they're stubborn.

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u/Grand-Shift-4721 — 7 days ago

Any suggestion and advice for new lovebirds owner?

(A little warning, my English isn't that great. I'm not from an English speaking country)

Context : I don't plan to buy birds really. I know that right now my resources, money, etc. (I don't have a job) aren't the best to take care of a pet. One day I came home from college to find that my parents had bought three birds : two lovebirds and one orange-headed thrush. They had them in small cages. From what I heard, my mom told my dad that it's okay to keep it that way. I've been telling them to get a bigger cage, preferably a wider one but they won't listen. Plus, our living spaces are quite crowded and somewhat small despite having two floors, not sure where to put the cages if we were to buy a bigger cage. I even suggested to buy toys for them. My dad then replied with "animals are not like humans. They don't have a mind to reason. They will not take revenge on humans." (Although, I might heard wrong. That's essentially what he said)

Next morning, I saw my mom played bird noises near the three. I'm not sure if that's good for birds but from what I've heard online it caused them stress (?). I advice her to probably let the birds adapt and it might be better to not disturb them with bird noises but she said they bought the birds for their voices.

I felt awful. I've had pets died, put into adoption, or get abandoned on the streets (cats), just because we cannot took care of them and I was a little kid without proper education about pets. Now that I've grown, I've learn a lot about animals and I want to make this comfortable for them. I want them to be happy and well...but I'm not sure who to ask. My country is a bit behind on animal educations and wellness...I'm trying to save up to secretly buy cages and toys for them..However, I'm not even sure that the online shop items are even the best for them (again, country is a bit behind about pets). I don't have a lot of money as a college student but I'll gradually buy their essentials and bond with them (it's going to be a little hard, since I don't go home often. I stayed on the boarding house near my college and can only go home during weekends or the holidays).

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u/Grand-Shift-4721 — 16 days ago