I don't know whether to be offended or take it as a compliment, but you can find all the photos and videos of the corset on my Instagram @allison.in.vogue
I made this corset for my semester’s project. (I’m a fashion designer)
I (20f) have been with her for a few months (24f), she treats me very well and I'm sure she loves me very much, but I think things don't finish working out. She has anxious attachment and always has to solve things in the moment, I on the other hand have avoidant attachment, so I prefer to wait a while to talk, because when we talk at the moment I get upset and have a much worse time.
She has NEVER given me space, she doesn't allow me to stop talking to her for a while to calm down, she doesn't allow me to go home when I don't want to talk anymore, she doesn't allow me to change the subject.
About a week ago I tried to end the relationship because of an argument we had, and when I wanted to leave she took away my cell phone so I couldn't order the taxi. He did that like 6 times. Then she asked me if I wanted to marry her, I replied that I didn't know because I was insecure, she started crying and didn't stop begging me until I told her that I was going to marry her. (I hate to tell lies but literally the other option was to get stuck in that discussion for more hours).
About this situation, I gaslighted myself into thinking “ok, maybe I don’t want to break up either, so I didn’t really want to go”. But all changed yesterday, same argument. At one point I said “I need to respect my own limits, so I’ll go and we can have this conversation other day”, I tried to put my shoes on, but she took them off, I tried to get up and she hung on me so I couldn't move, to the point that she grabbed my arms when I tried to take my phone. I told her many times that I wanted to leave, that I wasn't even going to break up with her, but that I wanted to go home, she wouldn't let me.
She loves me very much, sometimes I would say too much, she has told me many times that she prefers to die to break up with me, and I love her, she is almost always a good girlfriend, she is detail-oriented and I know that in a matter of financial future I could be fine with her, but what happened yesterday scared me a lot, because literally I could not leave, at one point I thought about leaving without shoes and without a cell phone with the excuse of going to the bathroom, but in the end I didn't.
I know that if she were a man I would see this as DV, but at the same time I know that she didn't do it with bad intentions. How serious is this situation?