Is our relationship over as we struggle to quit weed?
So me F(29) and my bf M(28) have been together for the past 5 years. In all this time we were smoking a lot of weed, all day long, (I didn’t smoke that much before him) and now we (I think it’s more me tho) decided to quit, it’s not the first attempt but for me it feels like this time I’m really done with that stoner lifestyle, it’s making me really sick and depressive, so I’m done, he also wants that. For a little more context we got together 6 months after my toxic relationship ended (with DV), I also have a lill abusive family and lost my V-card beeing rpd and my brother went psihotic 2 times…I know it’s a lot..I’ve been to therapy and now I’m fine..just sharing for context..so that was my baggage while entering the relationship, my boyfriend didn’t have it all that hard, he has a loving family and the only bad thing that happend to him is that he was bullied during football school. At first our relationship was fine, i felt safe with him but the longer the time passed I began to see some patterns..he depends very much on me, is kinda insecure, I have to explain a lot of things to him(like how people work or how to choose himself etc), i also am responsible for the house ( i do the main cleaning, the cooking, the planning), i also invest more in the relationship as we live in my apartment and i sometimes buy more thinks, because i have a good job and I can afford my lifestyle. He also works but he isn’t paid that much and now he is learning day trading and got funded but it’s only been one good month, in which he wanted to do everything very 50/50 and all he talks about si trading and fotbal or music he is also a musician…subjects which I’m not necessarily attracted to, I’m more of an literature & visual & psychology person…and we never or too little go out together or do fun stuff..so I don’t know o feel like his mom or big sister, our intimate life is completely gone, I don’t feel any attraction at all, but he is such a nice guy and i feel safe with him, he is really supportive and I don’t think I would have been this good and confident now without him loving me and giving me patience and time and I really do believe that he truly loves me…but I don’t know if I do anymore…and I don’t know if I should stay a lill longer cuz maybe all this dinamic is also the weeds fault and things will get better, cuz I see him wanting to be better for me and him…and I’m also beginning to be very pasive aggressive with him…or if I’m self sabotaging a nice relationship cuz of my past, but I’m tired trying to feel something or to handle this alone…i don’t know…any advice?