My girlfriend (27f) accused me (28m) of not trusting her when I expected her to send me money in advance before I go shopping
I’ve noticed my girlfriend has the habit of asking me to pick her a few things up when I’m at the shop but not actually paying for them. For small items it’s not really an issue but it’s getting to the point where she’s doing it at least 4 times a week and it’s becoming quite expensive.
I’ve mentioned it to her previously and asked her to send me the money and she’ll either agree and just not do it even when reminded or she’s say she doesn’t have the money. When I point out she shouldn’t be asking me to get her things if she can’t afford them she doesn’t really have a response.
I’ve started looking at budgeting my money better and mentioned to my gf that anytime she wants me to get her anything she can send me the money in advance otherwise I won’t get it. I pointed out it’s costing me quite a lot each month and it has to stop.
She got annoyed and accused me of not trusting her but I just pointed out that she literally isn’t paying,m so it’s based on facts.
She just said again I shouldn’t be starting arguments over ball amounts but I pointed out they add up when she’s asking it most days so she either sends me the money first or she doesn’t get them.
Does anyone have any advice on how best to approach this or have any other views on it?
tl;dr my girlfriend has a habit of asking me to get her things from the shop then never paying. When I told her I now want the money in advance she accused me of not trusting her and said I’m starting arguments over small amounts.