Eu sou daquelas que leio um bocado de tudo! Leio romantasy mas tambem gosto de ler livros com topicos importantes como direitos das mulheres, feminismo, etc, o que voçês andam a ler?
Hi all, I don't even know if this post will pass the gates but I am woman with 10 years experience as a software developer, with a lot of frontend focus angular, react, etc.
I did a bit of everything but usually the job market prefers specialists over fullstacks so I usually go for frontend jobs been there for the last 7 years.
I changed jobs 4 times.
I get in every single job, feedback that goes like "too little, or too much". It's basically that. I either underparticipate, and am "invisible" or participate too much and do too much and then people dislike it as well. By people I mean men.
Anyways. I am looking for a job, applying a lot, getting rejected a lot. Trying to tailor my CV everytime for that specific job. Been using Linkedin a lot but is just not working out. I am going to try other websites too.
Please help, what can I do? It's never about the work, is always just my personality... I am feeling so down...
Thank you all! Love this subreddit!
Ok so I never post and this is my only post here I don't even know if it will posted but I am 32F and I swear I never understood before, I used to think work was mainly about doing the work, but office jobs also have this invisible social layer I didn’t understand.
Often, in office jobs, your main goal is to be liked and know all the invisible undisclosed social rules, and this is your main job! the social job! the acting! and then later and very very secondary comes the real work.
I used to think, for real, that working and doing your work and complying with deadlines was actually the most important thing!
I saw many situations where:
- people did something and it was fine
- I did the same thing and suddenly I commited a crime in front of everyone's eyes
feedback I got that was negative: "I expected more" ,me - "I complied with all the deadlines tho" them - "but still I expected more" me - "like how?" them - "just more"
This happens because there is nothing wrong with your performance and work actually and they can't outright say they don't like you but they can fire you for it :D
examples: asking questions (when they ask any questions?), giving the same feedback I receive is wrong lol, cancelling 1:1s only wrong when I do it but fine when others do it, etc
edit: this said I would like to say I never raised my voice or called anyone names, I stayed respectful but this + doing my work always and always on time was never enough.
2nd edit: I think part of why this hit me so hard is that with ADHD I can be very literal about rules and expectations. If the stated rule is “do your work and meet deadlines,” I assume that is the actual rule. But apparently there are invisible social rules too, and I feel like I missed the memo.