u/GreyHollis

When I was in the middle of understanding what I felt for my best friend, I couldn’t find a book or group that matched what I was living.
Not the dramatic coming out story.
Not the younger woman finding herself, ha not with me being in my mid-40s.
Just, a grown woman, married with kids slowly realizing that the person she had been looking for had been there within arms length for over 20 years.

So I wrote all my feelings and thoughts down. It’s my memoir about this process of discovery. On Amazon kindle. I did publish it under a pen name because we are not out. And I am technically still married.

If this resonates, maybe it’s for you.

I’ve been lurking in this community for a while. A lot of what gets shared here-the confusion, the framework you built to keep yourself comfy, the moment that no longer works. I have seen and felt all of it.

I fell in love with my best friend of twenty years while married and we are both “straight”. She was in my wedding and my kids call her “aunt”.

So I took all of these feelings that I have felt and wrote about it. It took like two years to get it all down. I self published on Amazon but under a pen name since my family and kids could be exposed.

It’s called Ruin the Friendship: memoir on Amazon.

I’m not here to sell any thing just feels good to be able to say more in a community that would understand.

Thanks for being a safe space while I/we sort what this all means.