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I sometimes would wake up in a bad mood. Still tired or overslept, then my father especially would repeat “Good Morning” and when I don’t say it first, he takes it the wrong way and then gets irritated and mentioning how I’m always unhappy, rude or, negative. They would also both tell me things I need to do immediately when I just woke up, and just in general it makes me feel uncomfortable and overwhelmed when I just got out of bed. Both of them know I already have a history of being depressed and a diagnosed neurodivergent. Is it normal for parents to do these things?

I remember the behaviors of other Adventist people from believing they better than someone becuase they aren’t apart of the same faith, how other parents are negligent and rude to their own kids, and even question if it has affected my parents since one of them especially believed they are right because they are the parent no matter what, and I believe that Adventism has everything to do with that mindset and behavior.

I haven’t gone to any SDA church in a while but not that long ago, I visited multiple Adventist churches realizing how they really drove the younger people away or really good members.

I remember talking to someone from one of the churches who’s a few years older than me and is one of the younger adults keeping the church alive volunteering their time, money, fiancé, and physical energy including a few others where certain “elders” of that church wanted things to physically change but still mistreated and complained even when things were going smooth or making a big deal out of nothing. I even volunteered a few times myself at that same church since my father really wanted me to go with him, and it happened to me again where the main person leading acted like I didn’t know what I was doing or acted easily irritated with me when I did nothing wrong, and did similar to others who mentioned it after she left.

Another Adventist church closer to where I live was in huge decline when the former pastor decided to not do anything about a serious scandal that happened which drove away a lot of people including locals until a new pastor arrived.

I feel like most of them don’t understand or know how to keep a church/community alive

I have countless stories of my parents still not respecting boundaries including other families, and notice how most SDA parents seems strict, over controlling, paranoid, and feel like the faith has a lot to do with it.

It’s a possible delusion of mine, but sometimes convinced certain things by looks can determine if someone could be Adventist. Does anyone else feel or believe the same?

It’s common for it to be a thing in the Adventist communities, and churches that it’s best to be vegetarian or vegan. Veganism can cause health issues especially since the fake meats are over processed, and those who rarely eat meats or proteins can easily lack vitamin B12 which is what I recently found out from the doctors.

I was having strange symptoms even though my blood test seemed normal but days later, my doctor recommended to take a certain supplement since I was lacking not just vitamin B12 but Iron as well.

I was never a vegan but a vegetarian. I remember when I used to attend Adventist churches, people who were specifically vegan were extremely malnourished by just looking at them, and depend way too much on over processed foods even constantly consuming sketchy supplements. I’m not blaming the Adventist faith for this happening, but wouldn’t be surprised if that was somehow involved or even the cause for other people to have health issues since it still has negatively impacted my life in multiple different ways.

Edit: Didn’t mean to say anything wrong or bad that offended a few people in the comments, just telling my experiences.