WIBTAH if I remove myself from a friend who continues to do things I don't agree with while pregnant.
so me and this friend she's 20 and im 21 , we've been friends off and on since about 9th grade. Before we became friends she used to bully me , anyways years pass we fall off we reconnect same cycle .
we recently rekindled our friendship in about September 2025. everything was good until she got pregnant which it wasn't bad really but she was continually in baby momma / baby daddy drama .
she got pregnant by a 30 y/o man . I have my own opinions on that but I told her just because ima a blunt person doesn't mean im tryna hurt your feelings. they broke up because of a big fight he sent her to jail she gets out and find out he ran right back to baby momma #2 and is living with her right after living with said friend.
I told her continuously to not involve herself into drama or bad things she could get hurt in. About two or three weeks ago she was at my house and I got some pregnancy tests because her period was late I took one and she did as well mine was negative hers was positive . she went to the doctor and found out she was 6 weeks. so she's at the stage where anything bad can harm the baby.
she freaked out and I told her to call her baby daddy to tell him and he was like oh are you even sure an some more disrespectful stuff so I hung up. anyways about a week or two ago this all was a blur honestly she came and spent the night at my house which is a normal occurrence at the moment , well we was out she tells me we going to her moms house after we got food. no she went to the baby mom house and a whole ordeal broke out and long story short my life was in danger.
I want to also say I was being a supportive and kind friend because I wanted her to have a good life for this baby she's bringing into this world. I know how easy it is to lose a baby so please don't say "you don't know anything about pregnancy" I've had a miscarry before so I know if you don't take care of your body what could happen
I told her to take me home after that and I haven't seen or hung out with her since that day but today I was planning on going to a club I been wanting to go to for a while now this weekend once my id came , well she texts me and we was talking normally and I brought it up and figured how close we was I figured shed understand why I felt the way I did an didn't want her to come. I told her it was mainly because she has a past of drinking and she still is smoking as she's pregnant. so I kindly told her I didn't wanna be the person to tempt her to drink . I really care for her and the baby so I wanted her to understand
she did not she got mad and started to be like "well remember who was there for all them years" I was like wow you can't be my friend and pull that uno reverse card . I really have a lot of care in my heart and I tried to be as nice as I could about it until she took it to far I had to remove myself .
like I don't understand what's going on atp. I made a post similar to this before I was using my phone and only gave half the details