u/Guilty_Doughnut_9266

I went to an event yesterday and almost no guys could properly hold a conversation. I was shocked. About 9 guys approached me throughout the night, some nice and some a bit strange, and only one could talk normally. I am extremely talkative and extroverted and even I found it awkward. Many guys lied about random things like their age or job. They’d be in their twenties and keep saying they were retired or much older than they are as a joke but it continued throughout the whole night. They don’t know how to banter AT ALL. I work for the school system and the kids I work with had better conversational skills. Why is this? One guy also told me I was not pretty when I said no thank you to his advances. The quality of people in general is just terrible these days. Very very disappointing.

Started as a PC SW and the terminology and online platforms etc are so nerve racking. I e only had about 3 days of training but I feel overwhelmed and incompetent. Did anyone else feel this way starting off?

It’s been almost 2 years no contact and I still think about my ex. A month after breaking up with me, he tried to reconnect but at that point I had already moved away. I knew if I stayed in that city, I would’ve gone back to him. I told him no when he reached out which was the most difficult thing I’ve ever done. That crushed me.

He replaced me almost immediately after. I still think about him and wonder what if I stayed. The good moments were amazing and he was so kind, empathetic, sensitive, goofy and positive. With those qualities also came lying, gaslighting, substance use, a chronic need for sex, cheating, and an intensity that I’ve never felt before in my life. It was a constant push and pull. An obsession and then a drop off. I’d be begging to get us back to where we were but he would dispose of me so easily. I feel so stupid about not moving on yet. I sometimes wonder if I ever will. I feel hopeless.