r/vancouverdating

This is definitely not my actual account, didnt wanna hurt anyone reading this. But why do women in this sub stop chatting once they know I am Indian?

Yes, I may not be your type (and I respect that), but if we are having a great conversation thus far, and you ghost me or let the conversation dry out after I say my ethnicity is just cruel on the recieving end. (I have had 10+ occurences, so I hope my question is valid)

It hurts to get judged just cuz of my origin, you will only know if you are on the recieving end. But rest assured, I really wouldn't wanna spend my life with a racist🙂. I do have dated women from other races before, but reddit is just different, totally worse.

I can assure you I am more kind, genuine, respectful and caring than 99% guys out there, great education and salary too. I am saying it confidently cuz I know how much I care for my friends and family. Your loss!

If i told u i am female .. i will get 100 comments..
but if i am a man .. zero comments..
zero man unity here
Vancouver guys comeon

I need the ladies opinion on what they expect from this kind of posts, I have post here before but I haven’t have much luck, I would like to hear the opinion of the ladies that are actually looking to date someone here, what catches your eye or what I can do better to get some traction.

EDIT:
Btw I’m 35, probably that changes the perspective

EDIT #2:

This post have enough traction I take advantage and share some information about myself, I’m 35m I’m Latino but I’m been here in Vancouver almost 8 years now, I work full time, actually a little more than that, I enjoy playing tennis and hiking, but also love to stay home and cook some tasty meals. I’m kind of tall for a Latino 6’2.

24, living in kits, punjabi (born in canada) looking for short term fun! Im kind, clean, respectful, can host and would love to find someone similar. Id love to chat first before sharing any photos and would like to take things slow and not rush into meeting up because this is my first time on reddit. I can host or commute and have a car.

Please send a proper introduction or you will be ignored. NO I AM NOT A BOT/SELLER

id love a boring rude man who demands sex without any effort, bonus points if you hate women low-key and watch a tonne of JRE and Fox News.

I hate when men have hobbies, compliment me or refrain from misogyny and racism

you really should take me down a peg, cuz wimin.

id also hate it if you enjoyed dancing and art, what're you gay?

anyways, pls definitely for sure no bi or queer men, that would be too much for me to handle

definitely not seeking anything meaningful and in fact I am a sugar baby, pls give me money

as you can see, I am a very serious very conservative woman, no wokies!

boring rude enbies and lesbians are ok too, if youre rich and conservative

Just out of curiosity. I'm an older woman (and a newcomer, so sorry for mistakes). Could you please explain how do young people manage dating in Vancouver nowadays?
As far as I understand, each time you go on a date, you spend money, time, and effort that can be spend on smth else (new skills, hobbies, friends, sleep, etc.)?
In my home country, there are much less opportunities and interesting things to do for young people. So you are basically dating or get boooored. In Vancouver, with it's amazing nature and infrastructure, young people always have smth fun to do, especially when they are still students with all the almost-free clubs and events in universities.
Actually, I look at people 20+ and see that all their free time slots are fully packed with additional side-jobs & studies, hobbies, hangouts with friends. So if they decide to date (and spend time and money on dating), they'll have to significantly reduce these activities that are so important for them and thus their quality of life will reduce as well. So dating isn't free, you pay a hefty price for it, don't you?

Hey there, I’m a 36 year old black guy. I reside in Vancouver, looking for something to hangout with. Maybe go for a coffee, maybe a hike or a walk on the beach.
Just looking to date and see where it goes. I’m looking for woman between the ages of 20 to 38.
I am a social drinker and non smoker. Fire me off a message and let’s plan a date.

Like many of us I'm sure, I'm so tired of mindless swiping and meaningless conversations. I'm 30M living in Coquitlam, and I just want to treat a pretty lady for a night out. Nothing crazy, and we can leave the night and go out separate ways if we don't click!

If that sounds right to you, give me a DM!

The vast majority of women aren't going to be impressed by all the pickup threads. Be normal. Be a personable person. Have a conversation and be sociable. Be interesting. Talk about your hobbies.

What's the point of reddit dating if you just want to pick people up? Use tinder for that where people actually want to hook up.

The only thing you're going to be successful in with these kinds of threads is being blacklisted by people here.

Some of us would like not all the women to be further pushed away from weirdos on the internet.

Please, dudes, let's be better than this.

Looking for wholesome connections in Vancouver 🌷💋

Okayyy, I’m putting myself outside my comfort zone 😂
Not to mention I am NOT on any dating apps.
I am looking to meet some genuinely kind people and
start off as friends. I’d love a wholesome connection with a guy where we can actually go out, talk, laugh and experience things together without immediately making everything romantic or sexual. Yes, I enjoy male attention LOL, but I’m craving the sweet kind. 🥹

I’m extremely feminine heels, dresses, perfume, lip gloss, the whole situation💄👠but there’s another side of me that LOVESS simple things. Take me on a nature walk, let me smell every flower we pass 🌷let’s, have a picnic, explore somewhere random, see some animals/cows 🐄😂, find a cute little café or convince me to try something completely outside my comfort zone hehe‼️

And I’m always open to female friendships too!! 💕
I know I can probably look intimidating or a mean bitch from the outside LOL, but I promise I’m a sensitive softie. I’d especially love girlfriends who are non-judgmental, adventurous, kind, secure in themselves and don’t turn everything into competition or jealousy

Basically: good hearts, good conversations, spontaneous little adventures and non complicated people who go with the flow. 🌸

I want more wholesome people and experiences in my life. If that sounds like you, say hi. ♥️
I know my DMs is off but if you comment I will send you one back x

This post is for anyone looking for a relationship or genuine connection. And I’d LOVEE to see some women commenting too there someone for everybody 🤣❤️ So please don’t be shy and share a little about yourself! xoxo

Happy hunting, men & happy shopping, women 😉🤣❤️

Hello!

I’m 39 year old single father (50% split, amicable relationship, no drama) I am responsible, mature, open minded and easy going. I value integrity, honesty, consistency and kindness in others and practice them within myself.

I have a career and own my own place. I love animals and being outdoors. My interests include doing fun activities outside (sports/games/hiking/walking/anything in water) reading, video games and my various hobbies. I love horror movies and I enjoy cooking. I’ve also started going back to the gym and getting back into working out so I’d love to have a gym partner. I am really easy going and open to a lot of things/interests even if they are not on my radar. I love to laugh and especially make others laugh. One of my passions is to help to improve the lives of my loved ones in any way I can.

I’ve been told I’m attractive and handsome. I have an abouve average build as I am quite strong. I have strong legs and thighs from practicing various martial arts throughout my life and powerful hands/grip. If I can be honest, though I am strong and have muscle, I have some fat on my body and a bit of a “dad bod”. Between tearing my ACL in my late 20’s and doing the grind for my work/career my priority for training and going to the gym took a backseat. I would love to be with someone who is a mix of adventurous and homebody. Someone who is health conscious and willing to be active with me. Typically (but not exclusively) I have been interested in Caucasian women, or women with light coloured eyes (again, not a dealbreaker). Chemistry is more important to me than looks.

I am not afraid to be open and vulnerable. I like to work out problems and talk through them. I always aim to be honest and transparent and don’t like to lie or play games with people. In that way I would want my partner to be the same way. I don’t drink that much (mostly because I don’t like the taste).

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading. I don’t really know what to expect by posting here but I will take my chances. It can’t be any worse than those apps! Please feel free to DM me if you’re interested in chatting.

Just throwing this out there… I agree with the general perception that Vancouver is really terrible for dating. I travel a lot and I see a stark difference. When I’m outside Vancouver I meet people almost immediately and even if it’s short term it can be very very positive and fun. And I’m definitely open to meeting someone in another city and seeing them regularly.

For Vancouver, I think some factors are how expensive the city is, and some overlap with how the city has a general reputation for being a little bit cold and hard to make general connections.

However one pattern I’m noticing, especially when it comes to establishing physical chemistry, is how difficult it can be to do that when someone smokes a ton of weed. I have had partners in the past who smoked quite a bit of weed and were still capable of a good physical relationship. However, one thing I’ve really noticed lately is that when the physical chemistry doesn’t happen, it’s often with a heavy weed smoker.

I’m male and straight so my dating experiences are with females. But I also have female friends who are dating guys who smoke a ton of weed and they have low sex drives. I’m not just talking sex though, in my experience it’s not just a matter of sex drive, it’s people getting in their own heads.

This isn’t just a one time thing, it’s a pattern I’ve been noticing. Anyone else see it?

39m. Professional but taking the day off. Going run errands and then I am hopefully to set up a nice tasteful lunch date. No hookup. Just good drinks, story telling. No weirdos.

I’m a 27 year old student in my last few months of nursing school. I've been described as warm, attentive, and loyal. I'm also extremely introverted and keep a tight circle. I tend to do better one-on-one and with someone who prioritizes emotional intimacy. Since I'm going through a separation, I'm looking to take things slow and build a mature and steady connection.

As someone with ADHD, I thrive with a partner who brings guidance, encouragement, a strong sense of direction, and a calming routine to the table. In return, I bring warmth, endless quality time, and genuine joy from supporting my partner's passions. I was previously a homemaker, which gave me a solid collection of domestic skills. I can cook, bake, clean, mend, and tend to a garden. I enjoy baking the most. I can make intricate vintage cakes and cupcakes, macarons, and even braid and decorate pie crust.

Some of my hobbies include watching cartoons, colouring, singing, playing the piano, baking, and seeing the orchestra. I can probably also keep up with your hobbies - I have my rPAL, a compound bow, my own fishing gear/tackle, a paddleboard, and an old pickup/grocery-getter that has about 0 off-road experience... I have a very affectionate cat also.

While I can drive, I thrive in the passenger seat as the live radio 😅. I am located in the Fraser Valley, not Vancouver proper.

If you have natural caregiving tendencies, are a good listener, and can take the lead while staying humble and selfless, please send me a DM 🤍.

I went to an event yesterday and almost no guys could properly hold a conversation. I was shocked. About 9 guys approached me throughout the night, some nice and some a bit strange, and only one could talk normally. I am extremely talkative and extroverted and even I found it awkward. Many guys lied about random things like their age or job. They’d be in their twenties and keep saying they were retired or much older than they are as a joke but it continued throughout the whole night. They don’t know how to banter AT ALL. I work for the school system and the kids I work with had better conversational skills. Why is this? One guy also told me I was not pretty when I said no thank you to his advances. The quality of people in general is just terrible these days. Very very disappointing.

42 year old fun, happy,
Positive, always laughing female from Vancouver, Canada. Seeking a real connection with someone that turns romantic. Someone who is READY to be a teammate for life, through the good and the bad.
Someone who is ready and willing to put the effort into building something real. Not someone who is fake, unsure of what they want. Just looking to meet new people if anyone is from this area or anywhere really. Distance doesn’t bother me as long as both make the effort:. There are planes LOL You never know in life where your person is!! I often feel so alone and so left out. I have a couple close friends who I talk to daily and have a good job. I love traveling, being outdoors, watching sports and going to games. Going to restaurants and walks, dinners and drinks. Coffee, Cooking, baking and just laughing and having fun. Im caring, selfless, and a giver. I like to show my affection in many ways.
Just wanting to talk and meet new people and get to know, hang out if close. Looking for something romantic that leads to long term. Someone who wants to talk daily and not vanish after a day! Looking for someone who will make effort and get to know me! Not disappear after a day of talking!!
Gotta be someone out there! Maybe we can become friends, share a few laughs or fall In love.

Since last time was such a hit I’m tempted to be back #iykyk lol - if you have a way with words & an active imagination beyond “wyd, u up?” my DMs are open..

Unfortunately I've talked to 3 separate men on here and it's as bad as the apps if not worse. Yes, it's Reddit, so I'm not incredibly surprised. However, let this be a little "I've done this so you don't have to" situation, and stick to meeting people in person or vetting thoroughly on the apps. Good luck!

I met jeniffer in new westminister. So if she saw this . Please contact me . Nice to meet u that day. Miss u daily.
Please make this reach out to her friends