Move in with bf. Good/bad idea??
I (24F) live in a girls PG and my boyfriend (23M) lives in a shared flat in the same city. I’ve been searching for flats for a while now but not getting anything good, and he also wants to move to a single-sharing flat now. So he asked if we should move in together.
The thing is, I actually like the idea and I’m excited about it, but I’m also scared. We both are preparing for job switches right now, and I keep thinking “what if this affects studies?”, “what if we get too used to each other and get bored?”, or worst case, “what if we breakup later?”
We are serious about the relationship, but we still haven’t informed our parents. I was scared to bring it up at home, and he was planning to tell his family after getting his promotion. We both also come from pretty conservative backgrounds, which makes this feel like a much bigger decision emotionally.
Practically speaking, there’s very low chance of family suddenly visiting or finding out immediately. I stayed with him for a week before and honestly it went well, and also we went out for a trip without telling anyone and it's soo good, which is why I’m even considering this seriously.
But lately I already have fewer friends and I’m worried that if I move in with him, my entire world will start revolving around him. I really don’t want that kind of dependency.
I discussed all this with him and he says I’m overthinking and that he’s completely okay if I don’t want to move in yet. So there’s no pressure from his side.
What you guys suggest?? These thoughts honestly eating my brain out.