u/Gullible-Yak-4830

Today is my wife’s birthday. Happy birthday, my love. We both really miss you, and I hope you find peace wherever you are.

Now, coming back to the topic.most nights I overthink the mistakes I made, so that a future husband doesn’t repeat them.

First, I knew from the beginning that her shyness wasn’t her nature. It came from trauma. But I never showed empathy, I treated it like a problem, like it was her demon.

Second, when I told her family to break the engagement, she became a people pleaser for me. I never questioned it because it benefited me.

Third, I didn’t build an emotional connection because I thought providing financially was enough.

Fourth, I knew about her postpartum depression, but I forgot that even smiling people can be deeply depressed.

Fifth, I never became her emotionally safe space.

Sixth, my male ego won guys.I won, but my daughter will suffer the most.

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u/Gullible-Yak-4830 — 23 days ago

Today is my wife’s birthday. Happy birthday, my love. We both really miss you, and I hope you find peace wherever you are.

Now, coming back to the topic.most nights I overthink the mistakes I made, so that a future husband doesn’t repeat them.

First, I knew from the beginning that her shyness wasn’t her nature. It came from trauma. But I never showed empathy, I treated it like a problem, like it was her demon.

Second, when I told her family to break the engagement, she became a people pleaser for me. I never questioned it because it benefited me.

Third, I didn’t build an emotional connection because I thought providing financially was enough.

Fourth, I knew about her postpartum depression, but I forgot that even smiling people can be deeply depressed.

Fifth, I never became her emotionally safe space.

Sixth, my male ego won guys.I won, but my daughter will suffer the most.

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u/Gullible-Yak-4830 — 23 days ago