u/Gunner_Bat

Hello! Wife and I are moving to Oceanside this weekend. We are from SD & South Bay, so we know the county well overall, but haven't spent much time in North County, although my wife worked at Legoland a while back so she knows Carlsbad (especially Palomar Airport Road area) a bit. But we're coming from OC so what we do know might be a bit outdated. Hit me with all the recommendations you got!

Things we're interested in:

Food of course. We love pizza, burgers, sushi, Thai, ramen, Indian, and chain style (like Lazy Dog or Finney's). And of course the best tacos & CA burritos around. And any other recs.

Coffee shops, both for great espresso and for doing work.

Fun stuff & activities to do when we're bored.

Cool walking areas/third places/shopping areas.

Dance studios or other active things.

Cool nature spots (not just the beach).

And any other recommendations to check out what makes North County special. We have some preference for Oceanside first (we are pretty central), but are fine driving south or east a bit as well.

Thank you! Looking forward to being part of the community.

That's the worst part about Bipolar to me. My wife is wonderful. She's been on meds for a while now, takes them extremely consistently, and it has made a huge difference. Much smaller swings, very few episodes, etc. Honestly one of the best things to happen to us.

But sometimes Bipolar wins.

We were having a perfectly fine day, lunch with her parents & brother, got some ice cream, enjoying a Saturday. Coming home, we were talking about Sabrina Carpenter and her performative antics. She said that she acts "cutesy sexy." I mentioned that cutesy is part of her act cause she's short. That was a huge mistake, apparently.

End up having a huge fight about it where she says that because she isn't short (she's about 5'5") that I think she can't be cutesy and sexy and all that spiraling happens.

One of the things that we do when there's a flare up is allow separation, she's allowed to leave to get some air (she likes to drive around to blow off steam). When she was on her way out I told her to be safe. She said no, so I decided to not let her leave until she said that she'd be safe. She said she didn't want to be safe. She tried to wrestle me away from the door and ended up slamming it into my toe which is now bleeding. She said some pretty harsh things but oh well. She eventually told me she'd be safe (even though we both know she was lying) so she could leave.

Anyway. We location share so I've been tracking her driving. Bit fast but nothing too crazy. Just wanted to vent cause man, even when things are going just fine, something so small can happen and Bipolar just takes over.

I still love her to death and will always fight for her.

Love y'all. Be well.