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Is this normal? Southeast asian woman / Indian Man
I've experienced so much racism from this culture which has me shook cos I love Indian culture and was vegan for 10 years cos I converted to Hinduism. All before I met the guy I'm dating now. At first I thought he was incredibly handsome and sweet but as the years passed I've started to feel incredibly unsafe.
• he's slapped me a few times and seriously injured me once to the point it left scars, his Indian friend who had lived in the UK for majority of his life told me to forgive me because "he loves me and it is how couples fight"
• after he's slapped me even though I've gotten incredibly traumatised, his male AND female friends had told him he is NOT in the wrong because "I should be grateful he is paying for me" (covering my bills)
• he said it is okay for him to cheat on me because in his culture, if the men are unsatisfied it is okay for them to go out if "the woman doesn't do her duty and keeps fighting" ????? Based on personal experience, all his friends cheat on their gorgeous wives with any girl that breathes, they are so proud their wives let them go to strip club. They are amazing mothers and so beautiful so I find it disgusting but he said "the wife got fat and didn't do her duty"
• TWO times Indian girls have hit on him blatantly in front of me, and one even said "I am so surprised you are pretty for an *insert my nationality here*" cos she said most of them view southeast asian as maids and hookers? This was also proudly proclaimed by his friends saying all girls from my country cannot speak English and are hookers (???? Not to brag but i live in the best area of my whole country and am a homeowner, as well as having English as my native language.)
• he made me host his male and female friends, every drink poured by hand,but the same friends lied to my face the same night he was out cheating on me with a white girl....he said I should be grateful cos the girl he was talking to me beforehand was European and he still chose me
• he said I should be grateful someone is willing to cover my bills considring im a massive slut, because l girls who aren't Virgins in his country are considered those (and he said ALL girls from his country only had 2 boyfriends max unlike me who is a "used up whore")
• places emphasis on youth saying every woman above 25 is used, but cheated on me with various 40-50 year old because "they understand the real world"
• he said its OK because he buys me things and supposedly his ex and all others before me "let him f u ck others" because he said it is normal????
I did the whole housewife thing, I cooked, cleaned, did laundry, birthday surprises, every day 3x a day satiation for personal urges, and even scrubbed him in the shower, but I think he will forever look down on me cos im not Indian? He would compare me a lot to his Indian ex saying she is so tidy and lets him do whatever he wants.
He says i am unclean whenever he is angry. But I CAN'T accept these behaviours as well. This is my 1st relationship