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Hey everyone - I wanted to share something a little different with the community.

I put together this high-resolution black-and-white pencil sketch centered around men’s mental health, men’s safety, accountability, and the work this community has been putting in behind the scenes. The idea is for it to be subtle enough to hang in an office, home, or workspace, while still having a deeper meaning to the people who know what it represents.

If you’re a paid member at any level, you’ll get the high-resolution file for free. If you don’t want a monthly membership but still want the artwork, you can also make a one-time donation to purchase it.

And one other thing: if you genuinely cannot afford to support us financially but you’ve been actively contributing to this effort and feel like you’ve helped significantly, DM me. I’ll make sure you get a copy for free but just wanted something to thank those that have been contributing behind the scenes so that progress can be achieved.

Once you have the JPEG, you can upload it to Amazon or pretty much any photo-printing service, have it printed and framed pretty cheaply, shipped right to your door. a subtle peace to remind you of what once was- and how you contributed to helping the mental health of hundreds of thousands of men in America.

For me, it’s meant to be a quiet reminder of men’s mental health, men’s safety, and what ordinary people can accomplish when they actually organize and put in the work.

Ordinary people. Extraordinary impact.

I’ve spent close to a year working on this, and over the last two months, we’ve gotten extremely organized. Formal notices, preservation-of-evidence requests, documentation, and a focused strategy. A lot has been happening behind the scenes, and I’m proud of how far we’ve come.

The AWDTSG Facebook groups we’ve been tracking are paused and aren’t allowing new posts. Existing posts remain, but men are continuing to file DMCA notices seeking removal of their photographs. There’s still work to do, but stopping the flow of new posts is significant.

Tea announced today that it’s back on the App Store - but being back doesn’t mean being back to business as usual.

From what I’m seeing, the feeds built around posting men’s photographs and commenting on them are gone. They’ve also prohibited naming private individuals in their Communities feed. That effectively shuts down the “name him, post him, discuss him” model we’ve been challenging.

For the people using those features to expose personal information, make anonymous accusations, harass, or dogpile men, the app now appears basically useless for that purpose. What’s left looks more like a general discussion forum about television and favorite foods, alongside paid background checks and reverse phone number lookups. Whether that keeps people subscribed remains to be seen.

I can’t claim our efforts alone caused every change, and we’ll have to see whether these restrictions hold. But these are major strides toward the outcome we’ve been fighting for. Everyone who documented content, submitted notices, and helped us get organized has contributed to this effort.

MDA will also continue working with Match Group. They’ve been helpful in our interactions so far and appear receptive to the concerns we’re raising. We appreciate that cooperation and intend to keep building on it as we advocate for men’s privacy and safety.

This has always been about the men on the receiving end - their privacy, reputations, relationships, and mental health. Nobody should have to feel powerless while strangers turn their personal life into entertainment.

So I’m taking a week or two to step back, relax, and enjoy my own life. There’s more to accomplish - the Facebook groups still remain online with all the previous posts, but this feels like a milestone worth celebrating, and I finally feel like I can take a breath.

Keep preserving relevant evidence, pursuing legitimate removal requests via DMCA, and supporting each other. Thank you for standing with me.

Go enjoy your lives, too, soldiers! We’ve earned a beer, or 6. 🍻

-HQStaff

After my account went down following what appears to have been coordinated reporting, I’m back - and I have a MAJOR update coming later tonight.

I’m also working through restoring and manually re-approving my previous “how-to” guides, since many of them disappeared when the account was taken down.

A lot happened behind the scenes while I was gone.
Stay tuned. Tonight’s update is a big one

If we want Facebook to seriously review these groups, one of the most important things we can do right now is communicate with people who are already legitimately inside them.

That means girlfriends, sisters, female friends, relatives, coworkers, or anyone else who already has lawful access to an AWDTSG group.

Why?

Because people inside the groups can see the actual posts, comments, photos, and discussions — and they can report specific violations directly to Facebook instead of simply complaining to the group administrators.

That distinction matters.

REPORT TO FACEBOOK — NOT THE ADMINS

If someone believes a post violates Facebook’s rules, they should use Facebook’s built-in reporting tools on the specific post, comment, photo, or profile.

Reporting something only to the group administrators leaves enforcement in the hands of the same people operating the group.

Reporting it directly to Facebook puts the content in front of Meta’s enforcement system.

The goal should be to identify as many real policy violations as possible and make sure Facebook is actually receiving those reports.

Examples could include legitimate instances of:
Harassment or bullying
Doxxing or sharing private information
Threats
Targeted intimidation
Stalking behavior
Non-consensual intimate content
Hate speech
Impersonation
Fraud or deceptive behavior

WE NEED PEOPLE ON THE INSIDE

This is where everyone can help.
Talk to women you know who are already members of these groups.
Explain what we are doing.
Ask them to look through the groups and, when they encounter something that genuinely violates Facebook’s policies, report the individual content directly to Facebook.

Not to the administrator.

Not just to us.

Directly to Facebook.

QUALITY REPORTS ARE MORE IMPORTANT THAN RANDOM REPORTS

We want Facebook reviewing clear examples where its own rules appear to have been violated.

Ten well-documented violations are far more useful than hundreds of reports on ordinary posts that do not violate anything.

The strongest possible case is a documented pattern:
Post → Policy violation → Facebook report → Enforcement action

Repeated over and over across multiple groups.
That creates evidence that the problem is systemic rather than an isolated disagreement with one particular post.

THIS IS HOW WE KEEP THE PRESSURE ON

If groups are being paused, restricted, moderated more heavily, or otherwise reacting to enforcement pressure, this is exactly when legitimate reporting should continue.

Existing content does not disappear simply because new activity slows down.
There are years of posts sitting inside some of these communities.

People who already have legitimate access can help review that content and report the violations they personally encounter.

So start talking to people.
Your girlfriend.
Your sister.
Your female friends.
Anyone who is already legitimately inside these groups and understands what we are trying to accomplish.

Ask them to help identify actual violations and report them directly through Facebook’s reporting system.

The most effective evidence may already be sitting inside the groups. We just need people who can lawfully see it to start documenting and reporting it.

After researching Meta’s Terms, group policies, enforcement systems, and strike process—and speaking with people familiar with how these issues are handled—I have a theory about why these groups were suddenly paused.

My belief is that sustained pressure and legitimate reports over the past several weeks may have led to multiple enforcement actions against groups connected to the same administrators. If violations continue to accumulate, pausing activity could be a defensive strategy: stop creating new exposure, reduce the amount of new content being reported, and wait for enforcement pressure to fade.

Meta’s enforcement system allows certain strikes or restrictions to expire after set periods, such as 30, 60, or 90 days, depending on the violation and the account or group’s enforcement history.

That is exactly why this is not the time to stop.

🛑 The most important reports will come from people who are already inside these groups and can see the individual posts. 🛑

If you are legitimately a member of one of these groups—or know a girlfriend, sister, friend, relative, or anyone else who is—please encourage them to report content that genuinely violates Meta’s rules directly to Facebook.

Do not report to group admins report directly to Facebook to ensure admins don’t know where the report came from.

Depending on the post, reportable violations may include:
-Harassment or bullying (basically every photo in there is harassment and bullying since the person pictured doesn’t want to be in there).
-Credible threats or incitement of violence
-Doxxing or the sharing of private personal information
🛑Non-consensual sharing of images 🛑(basically every photo in there)
-Hate speech or attacks against people based on protected characteristics (gender is a protected class)
-Stalking, intimidation, or targeted abuse
Impersonation, fraud, or other deceptive behavior

Report the specific post, comment, image, or message through Facebook’s reporting tools rather than relying only on group administrators. Meta—not the group’s moderators—should review potential violations.

When Meta confirms and removes violating content, that may contribute to an enforcement record associated with the group, the content, or the accounts responsible. A consistent pattern of verified violations is more meaningful than isolated allegations.

So if pausing activity was intended to reduce exposure and wait out enforcement, the answer is not spam-reporting. The answer is careful, accurate documentation and legitimate reporting of existing violations THAT COME FROM WITHIN THE GROUPS THEMSELVES.

And most importantly, if you are already inside these groups, report the specific content that violates Meta’s rules.

If these groups are accumulating genuine violations, the worst thing we can do right now is disappear.

So I’ve recently been informed that the best chance of removal reporting for groups is when a large amount of members that are MEMBERS of these groups report the group itself to Facebook for bullying and harassment. So can we test out a few cases where actual members report the group to Facebook for bullying and harassment and beta test to see if that works ??

Thoughts could be that this could be your girlfriend, sister, hg, someone that is in that group and can report from within. According to my source it only takes a few number of reports from memebers within the group itself to report it to Facebook for them to remove it.

Please encourage members inside the group to report it and let’s see what happens

Anyone in California want to report groups under this specific California bullying and harassment form on Facebook and see if we have any luck there?

Thought is If laws are stronger in California (where she runs her business out of) and California residents are reporting the group URLs. I wonder if there will be any different results/more sucess?!

Please give it a try and report back findings.

https://www.facebook.com/help/contact/1133704354756989

Paola, this is a final good-faith effort to open a direct line of communication before this matter escalates substantially.

Our preference is resolution. We are willing to have a serious conversation, identify reasonable areas of compromise, and determine whether there is a path forward that addresses the concerns surrounding AWDTSG without turning this into a prolonged legal, regulatory, and public dispute.

But that window is closing.

Please contact me within 72 hours.

If we receive no response, we will proceed on the assumption that a negotiated resolution is not possible. At that point, our group is prepared to organize, fundraise, retain appropriate legal and professional resources, document relevant conduct, pursue available platform and regulatory processes, and financially support those efforts for the long term.

We are prepared to see those lawful efforts through, including the financial commitment required to do so.

That is not our preferred outcome. We would rather resolve legitimate concerns through direct communication and reach an agreement that allows everyone to move forward.

But we will not simply abandon the matter because resolution requires time, organization, or money.

This is the final opportunity to open that conversation before we proceed with the next phase.

We’ve made serious progress toward holding these groups accountable and pushing for their removal from Facebook. Enough progress, in fact, that public announcements like the one pictured in my comment below are now directly responding to what we’ve been discussing. It’s clear our efforts are being noticed.

Because of that, the next phase needs to happen differently.

I am creating a private, invite-only Discord/Reddit community for the most committed members who genuinely care about men’s mental health, privacy, safety, and accountability.

This will be where we privately discuss strategy, coordinated next steps, legitimate legal and platform-reporting options, research, messaging, and ways to organize larger community efforts that will eventually be strategically shared in a public setting such as this page.

The reason for going private is simple: you don’t publish your entire playbook for the opposition to read. Strategy happens privately. Once we agree on a direction, we can communicate clear, lawful action steps to the broader community.

This will not be an open-invite group. If you want access, DM me directly. There will be a vetting process designed to confirm that applicants are genuine participants and not people joining simply to monitor or disrupt the group. We’ll keep the process as privacy-conscious and anonymous as reasonably possible while still protecting the integrity of the community.

We’re looking for people who are serious, level-headed, resourceful, and willing to contribute- not just lurk and fire off emotional responses. sort of a special forces tactical team if you will.

Plan quietly. Coordinate intelligently. Act lawfully. Speak publicly when it matters.

The larger goal remains the same: advocating for men’s mental health, privacy, safety, due process, and accountability while challenging communities and practices we believe are harmful.

If you’re serious about helping build the next phase, DM me.

Alright gents, it’s time to get organized and use a process that has more teeth than individually reporting posts to Facebook.

The plan: coordinated DMCA takedowns, one group at a time.

When one person submits a valid DMCA notice, Meta may remove the specific copyrighted image involved. But if we can document dozens of separate copyright violations occurring within the same group, submitted together by an authorized representative, we have a much stronger basis to ask Meta to review the group itself and the admins allowing repeated infringement.

Instead of 50–100 guys filing scattered complaints, I’m volunteering to organize the claims, submit the DMCA notices together, document the pattern, and escalate the group to Meta for review based on repeated IP violations.

Important: this is only for photos you actually own the copyright to or have the legal authority to enforce. No fake claims, no guessing, no abusing the DMCA process.

Indianapolis is first.

If your photo has been posted in the Indianapolis group, DM me ONLY if you can provide the following:

Exact link to the infringing post. This is by far the most helpful. If you absolutely cannot obtain the link, send me a clear screenshot of the post.

A public Facebook link to the original photo you own. upload the photo to your Facebook profile, make that specific post publicly viewable, and send me the URL.

Proof/confirmation that you own the copyright. This could mean you personally took the photo—such as using a tripod/timer—or otherwise have documentation showing you own the rights.

Your full name and email address, along with written authorization allowing me to act as your representative for purposes of submitting the copyright complaint.

Once I have at least 50 legitimate, documented claims, I’ll organize them and submit them together, then escalate the broader pattern of infringement and request that Meta review the group itself for appropriate enforcement.

We’ll start with Indianapolis. After that, the next target is Charlotte.

Please don’t DM me with just “they posted me.” Have the information above ready so we can keep this organized and move efficiently.

One group at a time. THIS IS THE WAY and the beginning of the end of these groups.

Thank you for your attention to this matter.

Ok boys so you were posted on the Facebook page awdtsg and you want your post removed here’s what you need to do.

Doing this is really the only way we can fight back.

Submit a copyright form for your photo with this link below. You will need the exact url where your picture is posted so have a friend get that for you. https://www.facebook.com/help/contact/copyrightform

Upon completing this form the person who posted you will get a DMCA copyright strike/warning. If this is their first post nothing will probably happen. But if they get more than 1 strike their entire facebook account can become suspended (for 90 days) or completely terminated (banned). This is the only way forward for right now. Every man posted needs to be filling these forms out.

Once you fill out your basic details you will need to post your own photo on Facebook somewhere publically. This should be the same photo that the girl posted of you (assuming it’s a screenshot of your dating profile). You will need this link to copy and paste “copy of your original work can be seen at”

Then you’ll include in the description something like:

The copyrighted work is an original photograph that I personally created. I took the photograph myself by positioning my own camera/phone on a tripod and using the camera’s timer function. I personally selected the location, composition, framing, camera positioning, subject positioning, and timing of the photograph. I am therefore the photographer, author, and copyright owner of the photograph.
I am attaching a copy of my original photograph as an example of the copyrighted work along with the unauthorized reposting of it. 
Location of the infringing content
The unauthorized photograph appears in the Facebook group (INSERT BAME OF GROUP)
The post was submitted by an “Anonymous member.” The post contains the text:
Inset text

The attached screenshot clearly shows the infringing post and my copyrighted photograph. Because Facebook identifies the poster only as an “Anonymous member,” I am unable to provide the individual’s name.
I am also providing the Facebook URL available to me for the reported content/group. If Meta’s internal systems provide a more specific post identifier, the attached screenshot should allow the post to be readily located and identified.
Explanation of copyright infringement
The photograph displayed in the reported Facebook post is an unauthorized reproduction and public display of my original copyrighted photograph.
I did not authorize the anonymous individual who uploaded the photograph, the Facebook group in which it appears, or any other third party to copy, reproduce, distribute, publish, upload, or publicly display my photograph.
The photograph appearing in the reported post is the same photograph that I personally created using my tripod and camera timer. The uploader did not create the photograph and does not have my permission or a license from me to use it.
I am requesting that Meta expeditiously remove or disable access to the unauthorized copy of my copyrighted work pursuant to the Digital Millennium Copyright Act.

Copy of original: this is where you put your Facebook link to the photo you posted publically of that same photo

Copy of unauthorized: this is the link of your post on that page you got from a friend

Anyways fire all that off and when you get an email saying that you successfully submitted a copyright report you can reply to that email with the above information.

Post should come down in a few hours. Since the person reposting you doesn’t legally own the photo there is nothing by they can do. Plus if they have posted other guys and those same guys follow this same process their entire facebook account could be deleted.

So please take the time and protect fellow future men from being posted by reporting it to Facebook through proper channels.

So let me get this straight, a woman un alives her three children and other women support her, give her $1 million dollars and blame the father? I guess this is what happens when you take awdtsg to the extreme

Hey everyone! I have on my page how to remove yourself from the tea app FOR FREE and it’s also pinned how to remove yourself for free in this group at the top. HOWEVER if you still cannot figure it out, or want me to do it for you, I will do it for you for a small donation to my Venmo. The donation will be used for server space, work flow automation, website, etc as I’m building an automated site that will make things way easier to file an actual take down which can also be expanded over time to the Facebook groups. I plan to make this resource completely free once fully operational. So I’m essentially your donation will be put toward a good cause to help future men get their posts down.

Don’t overpay these sites that promise takedowns. Your money will be put to good use to fight the good fight vs some random company.

So therefore, if you want me to remove yourself tea app post shoot me a DM and I will get on it for you.

Alright, so I recently took Meta/Facebook to small claims court in my state for wrongful account deletion/account ban and ended up getting the maximum judgment allowed in my court, which was $10,000.

Here’s what I learned, and here’s what people need to know.

First, file immediately in small claims. Demand letters, support tickets, appeals, etc. do not work. The goal is to get in direct contact with the law firm Meta retains in your state so you can work through whether they can get your account restored. If they recover your account before the initial hearing, great. But even if they do recover it, you may still be able to proceed with your small claims case if you suffered actual damages.

This is where I think a lot of people make a big mistake: they do not understand how small claims court works.

The judge is a locally elected official who, for the most part, wants to help the local resident who showed up prepared. But you need to understand what you are actually asking for. You generally cannot just demand that Facebook give your account back. Small claims is about damages.

Since you filed the case, you have the burden of proof. In my opinion, the easiest way to prove damages is through Facebook Marketplace. Explain that you run a small local business in your town where you buy and resell items. Show up with screenshots of your Facebook Marketplace listings that total the maximum amount allowed in your court, or more, and explain that because of Facebook’s AI and negligence in wrongfully terminating your account, y ou lost out on the sale and revenue from those listings.

You can also explain that you needed that revenue to pay rent, bills, business expenses, etc. Even if those items eventually sold later, the argument is that real damages occurred during the month or two that your account was wrongfully disabled. That is what you are suing over.

Meta/Facebook will likely bring two main defenses:

1. Their Terms and Conditions.
2. A signed affidavit from someone at Meta HQ claiming you violated their Terms and Conditions.

For the Terms and Conditions, I simply asked whether they could produce a signed copy of those terms with my actual signature on it. They could not. They tried to argue that by using the site, I automatically agreed to their terms. My response was that blanket “take it or leave it” terms do not give them unlimited protection from widespread negligence that causes real damages.

Then they may claim that someone manually reviewed your account and determined you violated their terms. Even if they say that, a signed affidavit from someone who is not physically there and cannot be cross-examined may not be enough of a defense. I pointed out to the judge that the witness was not present to answer questions, and that simply promising I broke some random Terms and Conditions should not automatically protect them when negligence causes damages.

Once you win a judgment, wait the required period in your state or county. For me, it was around 30 days. If they do not wire you the money or pay the judgment, file supplemental proceedings. That lets them know you are not messing around.

That is when they finally cut me the check.

Hope this helps. I honestly think if more people did this, we could start holding Meta accountable for wrongful account bans and automated enforcement mistakes that cause real financial harm.